Concealing Mental Pain

by Rozella Haydée White, LEAD Consultant

“Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also harder to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.”
C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain

At some point, leadership was characterized more by what one conceals and less by what one reveals. A leader was one who was expected to keep it all together, all the time. This is impossible. Leaders are human and the pressure to hide parts of ourselves has led so many to disintegration.

One of the most faithful things we can do is be honest with ourselves about the state of our minds, hearts, bodies, and souls. This honesty leads us deeper into vulnerability, and models for those we lead and serve a way of being that is integrated and mindful.

God calls us for who we are, as we are. True leadership is about embracing our whole self and combating the notion that we have to hide parts of ourselves in order to be deemed worthy. And isn’t this what hiding is about? The fear that a part of our being is flawed and unworthy?

What would it look like if you revealed yourself to yourself rather than concealed parts of yourself you struggle with?

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