A Gift List for Leaders

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

  1. A planner. Our team is trying Michael Hyatt’s Full Focus Planner for the first quarter of the year. Last year I fell in love with my Passion Planner. There are tons of planners on the market. Choose the one that works best for you. Then use it. Planning is the way to ensure you have time off, time to read, time for continuing education and spiritual practices, and time for family.
  2. Books. I love to read books that drag my head and heart into new, deeper knowing. Ones that move me beyond my surface-level knowledge. Here are a few recommendations:
    • White Fragility, by Robin DiAngelo. We read this for staff discussion and we are still chewing on this book. I find myself turning to it over and over.
    • How to Lead When You Don’t Know Where You’re Going, by Susan Beaumont. I really appreciate the work she does exploring liminal space, congregational life, and leadership. Susan is a rock star when it comes to helping the church be a better version of itself.
    • Your Leadership Edge, by Ed O’Malley and Amanda Cebula. This book, and the other resources by the Kansas Leadership Center, should be a core read for every leader on every church council. It is too easy to keep doing the technical work over and over and miss the chance to diagnose the situation, manage yourself, energize others, and intervene skillfully.
    • Your Best Year Ever, by Michael Hyatt. Easy and helpful advice as we start a new year. I love his crisp writing for fast reading.
    • Or pick any book that sparks your imagination. Reading books is central to growing as a leader. Leadership is an activity, not a title or role – we can all lead.
  3. Time to dream. This may feel like a weird gift, but getting the people you need on board to support you and give you space to dream is key. This might be your church, your council, your family…you get the picture. Block out a day a month, two days a quarter, a week every six months, whatever works in your life, but do it now. 2020’s work is going to come crashing in before you know it, so get this on the calendar first. You may want this time so you can be alone, or maybe you want to be with people who are great thinking or praying partners, or maybe a combo of both. The point is to stop doing your usual work and start listening to the Holy Spirit stirring up dreams in your heart.

Merry Christmas. Our LEAD Staff is holding you in prayer.

Talking about Worship…

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

As we prepare for Christmas, it’s a good time to remember that what we say matters.

I visit congregations from different denominations all across the country. In response to experiences that have been repeated over and over, I want to share these 6 tips for welcoming new people to follow Christ in your unique community.

  1. Talk with your regular worship attendees about this being a season of intentional hospitality. This means sitting toward the front and center so visitors don’t have to be ushered to the front because members have filled all the seats in the back.
  2. Words of inclusive welcome need to be spoken early in the liturgy. Think about: at the door when people come in, before the sharing of the peace, when you offer the invitation to the table… Closing announcements are too late.
  3. Pictures speak too. Images of all white people may feel welcoming to insiders, but not expanding images beyond a white icon of Jesus and all white people in printed material or on slides (if you use them) is shutting the door on the neighbors and the world.
  4. Every time before communion, clearly state the availability of the wine / juice, bread / gluten free bread options, provide clarity on who is welcome at the table, and let people know how to navigate movement (ushers who can help may be as important as words). While this may feel like a distraction for frequent worshipers, it is life-giving for those risking a visit.
  5. Using language that offers a wider view of God, rather than representing God as he or singing songs that only offer God as a male, king, father, provides a fuller connection to God in worship.
  6. Make sure the music, slides (if you use them), and musicians are in sync so that what we see on the screen or in the bulletin matches what the musicians play and we sing. This makes a big difference and lets everyone participate.

But most important, talk to me. If you care about my life and wonder what got me in the room, everything else is reduced in magnitude. Love does conquer all.

We thank you God

We thank you God
For the Risk-takers.

For the seed that risks dying
For the farmer who risks the weather
For the fisher who risks the sea
For all who risk that others may bloom.

For those who know that
Only when we risk
Can we feed the hungry,
Clothe the vulnerable,
And welcome the stranger.

For those who know that
Only when we risk
Can we come to know You,
Love our neighbors as ourselves,
And be fully human.

We offer Thanksgiving on this day
For all who take risks in your name.

Amen.

by Lynn Willis, LEAD Spiritual Director

“But here’s the thing: without taking the risk, we can’t experience the fullness of life.
Without the risk of becoming human, we wouldn’t know what it means to
love God, love ourselves, and love our neighbors as well.”
Rozella Haydée White*

*Excerpted from Love Big: The Power of Revolutionary Relationships to Heal the World, Fortress Press, 2019, p. 118. Used with permission.

 

 

Time to Pray

by Dan Kuckuck, Pastor at St. Stephen Lutheran, Urbandale, IA & LEAD Consultant

It occurred to my wife and me a few months ago that we wanted to be more intentional about including some faith practices in our home life. Our daughter Olivia is about two and a half, and at the age when she’s noticing and establishing routine. She knows exactly when it’s time to talk about the weather (“Daddy, it’s rainy out!”) and time to feed our dog, Luna. But in her schedule, there is never a time to pray.

So, Minda and I decided that we’d start praying at dinnertime, just like we had when we were kids.

“Olivia, it’s time to pray before dinner!” Blank stare.

“Let’s hold hands to pray, honey.”

“No!” Minda and I both reach over to grab Olivia’s hands. She rips them away. Minda and I decide that she doesn’t have to hold our hands.

“Daddy and I are going to pray, Olivia, and you can pray along with us, okay?” Blank stare.

“God is great, God is good…”

“NO!” Olivia covers both her ears as we pray, sporting a pained, labored expression as we finish the prayer.

“Amen.”

Well, I think we nailed it. Faith formed! Ha!

How do you try to establish prayer practices at home, or in your own life?

It’s not easy in the midst of all our daily demands to make time for prayer – especially if the time hasn’t been set aside beforehand. If I’m particularly busy, running from one thing to another, I feel just like Olivia—resistant to prayer. Prayer seems like another task, another activity, another obligation. And of course, sometimes I just forget.

Prayer is important to us, though, and we want to make it happen. The approach we’re taking with Olivia is the same approach I’m taking for myself, and one that you might take as well:

We’re setting a time to pray each day (dinnertime), we’re making our prayer simple, and we’re keeping it short.

We’re also reminding ourselves that this is Olivia’s first step in her life of prayer. We just want to establish the habit. We trust that God will continue to nurture the relationship as her life of prayer unfolds from here. At the beginning, though, we just hope she won’t say no. Sometimes, prayer is simply saying “Yes.”

How are you working to nurture your prayer life? I’m delighted to say that Olivia doesn’t cover her ears anymore, but she still doesn’t hold our hands. She just sits and watches. I think that’s a good start.

A Year From Now…

We used to think, if we don’t want things to change, then stay the course.

Today we know that kind of thinking will actually cause us to lose ground…even faster than if we tried something and messed up.

If you want a more vibrant, value-centered, goal-focused congregation this time next year, NOW is the time to lay the path. And LEAD’s Annual Roadmap can help.

Here’s what Tammy Jones West, Assistant to the Bishop, North Carolina Synod, ELCA, has to say about the Annual Roadmap:

It’s always good to have a plan and a way to make it happen. The Annual Roadmap gives you both. Plus, it gives congregational councils a way to celebrate the wins. We don’t do that enough. The Annual Roadmap is ready to go with all the pieces. I’m a huge fan of not recreating the wheel. Here’s the wheel.

LEAD is offering you this very affordable, consultant-free resource at a great price. Regularly $150, the complete Annual Roadmap package is on sale for $120 through December 15th.

And, because we believe so much in this product, based on its proven results, we will host a free webinar on Monday, January 6 at noon (Central Time) to prepare your leadership to lead this yourself. Purchase the Annual Roadmap by December 15th and you will automatically be invited to this webinar.

Are you a synod or judicatory looking for ways to resource the congregations you serve?

Here’s how they used the Annual Roadmap in the Southwestern Texas Synod, ELCA:

In the Southwestern Texas Synod, we got a lot of requests from church councils to facilitate their annual council retreat. We decided to use LEAD’s Annual Roadmap, and we invited council leaders from different congregations to come together on a Friday night and Saturday to work through the process together. It was so beneficial doing this with clusters of congregations – they learned from each other and drew strength and energy to develop bold goals for the coming year. – Bishop Sue Briner, Southwestern Texas Synod

Contact LEAD to discuss how you can use the Annual Roadmap in your synod or judicatory.

Not my habit. Or, maybe it is.

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

I love fresh starts. As people of faith, we get one every morning when we wake up. Every Sunday. Every new month. Every new season. You get it – pick a day and shift habits that give life.

Have you noticed we are all pushing the practices we know are life-giving to the “when we have time” list? We are squeezing our spiritual, communal, and personal life between the cracks of our to-do list. Rest, exercise, family, friends. Even worship and prayer wind up as options, crammed into the expectations everyone else has for us. Our habits are messing up our lives. I have my list and I bet you do too, even if you aren’t saying it out loud.

This is not one of those articles to make you feel ashamed of your over-functioning or under-functioning. It is a simple invitation to practice life a little differently, in community, during the four weeks of Advent (LEAD’s daily intentions for Advent are a great place to start). But Advent isn’t nearly long enough to truly create new habits.

Here’s what the experts are saying:

This notion of acting without thinking — known in science as “automaticity” — turns out, perhaps unsurprisingly, to be a central driver of habits. And it helps illuminate the real question at the heart of this inquiry: How long did it actually take for people to form a habit? In his article, “How Long It Takes to Form a New Habit“, Psychologist Jeremy Dean writes:

The simple answer is that, on average, across the participants who provided enough data, it took 66 days until a habit was formed. As you might imagine, there was considerable variation in how long habits took to form depending on what people tried to do. People who resolved to drink a glass of water after breakfast were up to maximum automaticity after about 20 days, while those trying to eat a piece of fruit with lunch took at least twice as long to turn it into a habit. The exercise habit proved most tricky with “50 sit-ups after morning coffee,” still not a habit after 84 days for one participant. “Walking for 10 minutes after breakfast,” though, was turned into a habit after 50 days for another participant.

I love The Power of Habit, a book by Charles Duhigg on this topic.

I love fresh starts.

I’ll have a new one tomorrow!

Advent Intentions 2019-Relationships

I intend to spend this day with all the curiosity and imagination that God gave me.
I intend to spend this day in relationship with God and all of God’s creation.
I intend to share my joy.

by Lynn Willis, LEAD Spiritual Director

This Advent, LEAD is once again inviting you to spend time in relationship with God and all of God’s creation through the spiritual practice of intention. This year’s intentions will focus on our relationships with neighbor, family, self, and God.

A spiritual practice is just that. Practice. The more it is practiced, the deeper and more fulfilling it feels. We are delighted that so many people are practicing being aware and living with God through LEAD’s intentions series.

Each day’s intention includes a brief reflection, Bible verse or quote, and suggestions for sharing the experience. The 17 daily intentions are totally free for you to use and share. You can sign up to receive the daily intention by email (Monday-Friday), view a new one each day on Facebook or check them out on the LEAD website. While we encourage you to focus on one Intention each day, all 17 intentions will be available to you on the website beginning November 25th.

The Advent Intentions have been designed so they can be used alone or combined with LEAD’s free print-ready Advent contemplative liturgies.

May we love God, our neighbors, and ourselves
with all the creativity of our minds,
the strength of our hearts,
the power of our bodies,
and the resilience of the Spirit. Amen

Cultural Connection: The Home Altar

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

I’ve had so many people to pray for this year that lighting one candle didn’t feel like enough, so I started a new ritual – our family prayer candles.

Singing Every Table Is an Altar at worship, then having my grandchildren for lunch and lighting the candles with them brought it home: we have a home altar, and it is the table we gather around.

What’s on your table right now? Who is invited to sit there?

Every table has the capacity to be an expression of our faith. One of the oldest traditions around: A home altar.

Our Latinx friends are way ahead of me on this ritual. The sacred liturgy surrounding the Day of the Dead is the peak of this experience. The table becomes a celebration of our dear family and friends who have gone home.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the rituals of our daily lives. Habits are the most compelling way to lead yourself. Leading ourselves comes before leading others. We know this in our heads, but what about the space around us?

Our space influences us more than we realize.

I’m ready to make space on the table downstairs and on a shelf in my study to call me to worship.
To prayer.
To remember you and all those I love.

This is more than hanging a cross on the wall. It is about creating space in my crowded head for reflection.

I’m not waiting for the “new year” to experiment with new faith practices. Life has been too hard, too full, too … too much. I want to enjoy the next few months by starting now.

Want to join me?

If now is too soon for you, start planning for Advent. Reclaiming this season as a faith pilgrimage rather than a crunch time feels important to me. Our new Advent Resources are free for you and anyone you share them with. Thanks for caring and sharing these.

Something to ponder: If you turn your table into an altar, are you turning your home into a church?

We have BIG NEWS!!!

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

LEAD is becoming a stand-alone nonprofit organization. This shift comes with deep gratitude to the Texas-Louisiana Gulf Coast Synod of the ELCA for birthing LEAD. Building on their investment and vision, LEAD has created a leadership network for the whole church. WE LOVE THIS KIND OF EXPERIMENT!

What does this mean for you?

Three big changes:

  1. NEW STAFF ANNOUNCEMENT FOR January 2020. We are taking a faithful leap forward by adding Pastor Louise Johnson to our staff. She is particularly passionate about how leaders and faith communities grow in their capacity to reach out with the good news of Jesus Christ to a world longing to hear.

Louise will bring significant gifts to LEAD in innovation and new program development. She has a long track record of successful work in leading organizations in the practices of discernment, visioning, and planning. She brings the wisdom of experience, the heart of a fellow traveler, and a deep trust in the power of the Spirit to the practice of leadership. She is a skilled workshop leader, teacher, and mentor particularly in the area of adaptive leadership. Learn more about Louise.

  1. You can expect our existing services and resources to grow deeper, wider, and richer as we apply the action research we have gathered as a learning organization. You will benefit from all the learning and advice you (and others) have shared with us in the last seven years. Stay tuned!
  1. You can expect to be asked to invest. We need some serious financial support to take this leap. We need you to dig deep and make an investment in your own learning as together we share in God’s vision.

The essence of the church is a community gathered and sent from the table and from the waters of baptism, practicing faith life together.

The essence of LEAD is to reflect and act out of the baptismal waters, following the prophetic call of the Holy Spirit, so that our neighbors feel included at the table as we grow in deep, bold, consequential faith.

As our vision expands, please grow with us.

 

 

Are you in the way?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

I ask myself this question every time my voice is louder, more frequent or speaking as an expert. When our hope is to empower others, the way we are showing up as leaders may be our biggest problem.

We have seen:

Pastors or lay leaders who mean well yet take up all the air in the room.
They always know the answer to the question, so, like an eager child, they jump in with more information than is helpful. Their people sit quietly letting the pastor over-function. After all, who else could be as “right” as they are?

Pastors or lay leaders who sit with pleasant smiles on their faces without contributing anything to the conversation.
When asked their opinions, they offer a wishy-washy, I-don’t-want-to-share perspective leaving their people thinking they either don’t care or truly have no capacity.

I know these feel like stereotypes, but we see this more often than you would imagine. If I am making you feel uncomfortable, then you know what I mean. Here’s what’s at stake:

  1. When leaders act as experts, they shut down the conversation effectively shutting down the growth in others.
  2. When leaders have the loudest voices, they are not making room for younger people or for people who are not white or for the person in the room who may be sitting with the golden nugget needed for a break-through that will likely never be heard.
  3. When leaders take the safe position of not speaking up, they add to the resistance even when this may not be their intent. When they avoid lifting their own voices, they keep everyone stuck.

Finding your leadership voice takes real work. You have to know when to speak and when to listen. If you are unsure, err on the side of listening. If you are asked your opinion, give it in the most generous way. Bringing your whole self to the leadership table in a way that makes room for others and at the same time allows people to know your thoughts is mature leadership. Practice at home. Everyone will be freed to lead.

Equipping Student Leaders

by Jessica Noonan, LEAD Director of Operations

“What is Camp Hope?” Webinar
Wednesday, October 16 at 10:00 a.m. CST via Zoom.

“How have you grown as a leader through your involvement in Camp Hope?”

This was my favorite question to ask returning high school students at their Camp Hope Day Camp staff interviews. To me, this question was the litmus test for how effective this ministry was being lived out in our faith community.

The second year we hosted Camp Hope in our congregation, one of the returning staff came in for her interview and her answer to the question blew me away. She was a shy high school student who didn’t like to speak in front of others. This sweet high school student said,

“After being a small group leader for three weeks at Camp Hope, I realized I could do a lot of things. At school this past year, I felt more confident speaking up in class and volunteering to be in charge of projects. After leading a group of 1st graders for three weeks, I found out I was a leader!

You see, Camp Hope (day camp) is a unique ministry focused on two things – Biblical literacy in children and equipping/nurturing student leaders. It’s an awesome day camp for children that provides necessary summer childcare for families in any community. Campers are engaged with a new Bible story in seven different interactive ways each day over the course of the three weeks of camp. They really know the Bible story at the end of the day!

The second focus of Camp Hope is equipping and nurturing student leaders. Camp Hope is executed by high school and college-age students from the congregation and community who are equipped to run the camp with adult mentors walking alongside them.

When a student wants to become part of Camp Hope, they follow a specific process that begins with filling out an application. This is followed by an interview with the Camp Hope Director and Camp Hope Managers. For many students, this is their FIRST interview. Talk about learning life skills!

Upon being hired, students go through training and are paired with an adult mentor from the congregation. The mentor walks alongside the young person as they learn how to navigate and implement the curriculum and how to be a leader with children in the Camp Hope setting.

Camp Hope is an amazing strategy for leadership development!

Camp Hope turned 30 this year and in the midst of exciting camp days, we see evidence of this leadership school at work:

  • Nurturing the faith life of children and students through the experience of Camp Hope
  • Honoring and using the gifts of high school students and college-age students in our communities
  • Equipping young people with invaluable life skills
  • Growing future pastors, teachers, and other service-focused leaders for our world

Do you think your congregation might be ready to host Camp Hope and grow student leadership? 

Join us for the “What is Camp Hope?” webinar on Wednesday, October 16 at 10:00 a.m. CST via Zoom. Register now.

 

In Search of Paul: Pilgrimage to Turkey and Greece

by The Rev. Dr. Don Carlson, Pilgrimage Host

Travel dates: April 14-30, 2020 – Registration closes October 1, 2019

“For too long we’ve read Scripture with 19th century eyes and 16th century questions. It’s time we get back to reading with 1st century eyes and 21st century questions.” – N.T. Wright

Walking through ancient Philippi, seeing the Roman forum at Thessaloniki and the Temple of Apollo at Corinth, being on the Areopagus in Athens, visiting the imperial temples to Hadrian, Domitian, and Augustus at Ephesus – all bring the realization that Paul was writing to small faith communities that lived in a world very different from Luther’s or ours.

The pervasiveness of Roman Imperial Theology, the patronage system, the social restraints of slavery and caste, the inescapable economic inequality, the array of gods and temples, and the brutality of the “Pax Romana” – the peace of Rome – all stood in stark contrast to the grace and peace of Jesus. Faithfulness to Jesus called for a different way of doing life together. Paul knew his context.

Knowing Paul’s context – the Roman Empire – brings a richer understanding of the apostle Paul and his gospel. Come and see with 1st century eyes and ask 21st century questions.

Join this LEAD Pilgrimage and rediscover Paul, the “pagans’ apostle”. For details and to sign up click here! 

Take a look at this amazing trip check out this video!

 

Reflecting on Our Relationships: LEAD’s 2019 Advent Resources

May we love God, our neighbors, and ourselves
with all the creativity of our minds,
the strength of our hearts,
the power of our bodies,
and the resilience of the Spirit. Amen

Welcome to LEAD’s 2019 Advent Resources – Reflecting on Our Relationships in Light of God’s Love

Each year during Advent and Lent, LEAD provides FREE print-ready contemplative liturgies. Based on readings from the Revised Common Lectionary, the resources can be used by congregations, small groups, or individuals for worship or personal reflection.

Designed for all ages, the resources and spiritual practices have been used in a wide variety of settings in more than 14 different countries.

Everything provided is FREE and may be used exactly as presented or customized for your own context.

This Advent, we will be paying special attention to our relationships with:

Week 1 – neighbor,

Week 2 – family,

Week 3 – self,

Week 4 – and God.

Through the confession, prayers, and time of silence, we will explore how these relationships can be life-giving and risk-taking. They can be vulnerable and forgiving; gracious, diverse, and accountable. Each week, we will be sent out with an invitation to consider how we can deepen and expand our relationships with neighbor, family, self, and God.

In our deep and unshakeable belief that you are with us always, God, please open our hearts and minds and souls to the love that you wish to pour into us. Give us joy in the knowledge that you are always in relationship with us, and accompany us as we explore our relationships.

Resources by Lynn Willis, Spiritual Director – LEAD

Is there ANY good news?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

At the turn of the century it was predicted that people in the city of New York would literally be drowning in manure due to the number of horses on the streets. (Yes, the late 1800s.)

The birth of the automobile saved us from this fate.

The threat was real. The innovation was slow, iterative and eventually created its own issues with auto emissions contributing to the decline in air quality. Yet, the first crisis was averted.

Creativity won the day. Creativity loves constraint. People have been known for transforming limitations into advantages. In case you don’t feel the squeeze, ponder this:

  • Dwight Zscheile’s article Will the ELCA be Gone in 30 Years? does a great job laying out the challenges we are facing as leaders in the church, regardless of denomination.
  • Many of us feel ashamed that our churches are 98% white. (Or is it 100% at your place?)
  • The average age of the white people in our church is 58.

While the constraints are all around us, our LEAD Team wants you to know that we are not without hope.

Before you are completely out of breath, why don’t you partner with us? We are working with over 70 congregations right now who are getting curious about their neighbors, rethinking their ways of making decisions, sparking generosity, and deepening faith. We know this is hard work. But you don’t have to do it alone. We are ready to join you in creating new behaviors that will encourage you and your congregation to leverage LEAD’s four growth indicators:

Listen – to God in scripture and prayer, in your congregation, and in the neighborhood. Note, the congregation is only one-third of the work.

Center – start with your own faith practices and purpose, then move to the purpose and values of your congregation. Life-alignment and congregational-alignment are about focusing on what matters most.

Explore – ask the hard questions. Get after the essential decisions you are making in your own life and at church. Curiosity is a way of life in this changing world.

Connect – get out of your comfort zone and meet the neighbors. Go beyond your ethnic, cultural, and gender frameworks to meet a God who is in love with diversity.

Our consultants and coaches are ready to walk with you down this unknown road. Our best experiences are with congregations working together to learn, experiment, and dig into their own imagination. There really is good news for leaders who are ready to do the work. Let’s talk!

Behind the Smile

by Rozella Haydée White, LEAD Consultant and author of Love Big: The Power of Revolutionary Relationships to Heal the World

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about accepting the parts of ourselves that we wish weren’t so…

Leadership is hard. So many of us know this to be true.

Some of the best leaders are also ones who struggle with mental illnesses. Leaders who are entrepreneurial, creative and visionary often live with anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder. We have to acknowledge and talk about this. There is no shame in being a person who lives with mental illness. I have found that embracing this leads to a healthier life and invites others to do the same.

I’ve been battling a depressive season this year and I keep saying, “But I’m not depressed. I’m bathing. I’m functioning. I’m not suicidal!”

As a friend pointed out to me recently, not being at my worst doesn’t mean that I’m ok. It just means I’m not at my worst.

There’s a lot that has happened personally and professionally and one thing that I know to be true is when transition occurs in my life, depression makes itself known. And it’s not fair. It’s never fair.

There are so many things I want to do. So many dreams I have. So many ways I want to be. And I’m struggling with making all of it work together.

I’m mindful more now than I’ve ever been. And I know that the dreams and visions God has given me will come to pass. I believe this. I also believe that I can’t do everything at once. And that sometimes the best thing is to be, breathe, and focus.

So that’s what I’m going to do. And I will continue to make friends with my shadow side, my beloved depression that teaches me so much about myself and leads me deeper into compassion and gratitude, for myself and for others.

My smile means nothing more than my bravest attempt at showing up. And we know that those with the brightest smiles tend to carry the deepest sadness. Praying for you as I pray for me.

______________

Here are some resources I’ve found helpful.

Would you be interested in continuing this conversation? Please take a minute to complete this short survey as together we explore what might come next.

What’s the Next Step?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

This is a discipleship question.

Just had a visitor at church…what’s next?

How is our congregation making meaningful connections with our guests so they feel invited into partnership? What are the ways we can build relationships with people who are brave enough to show up, without ignoring them or bombarding them?

Just baptized an adult, baby or family…what’s next?

How is our congregation helping them deepen their faith life? What are the faith practices they might incorporate into their lives?

Just had First Communion, Confirmation, or some other milestone…what’s next?

How is our congregation paying attention to seasons of life in a way that grounds passages in faithful relationships with each other, but more importantly with God? What is our plan for the day, week, or month that follows?

Next steps are essential. Here’s why:

We will take them either way. We will keep on doing SOMETHING. The congregation will either shape culture, by offering ways to deepen an ever-growing relationship with God and each other, or not. If there is no clear, accessible, accompanied next step, people will keep on walking in their search for meaning, for God.

We can create micro-experiments. I think about this as living into the next step by trying something at the next opportunity. This is leadership – the courage to risk experiments, but they don’t have to be giant shifts. Next steps can even be half-steps. Keeping up the momentum is key.

We all need these next steps in our lives. If you are feeling stuck or stagnant, what is your next step? You don’t have to figure this out by yourself. People take advantage of spiritual guides, coaches*, family and friends to sort this out.

Just try something.

*Check out LEAD’s special on coaching.

Beat the “Building Blues”

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

I hear these laments everywhere I go:

We are trapped by deferred maintenance.

The last building campaign fell short, so the debt is killing us.

We can raise money for the building but not for ministry.

We want to build but we’re not sure why.

We are raising money and building new buildings, but people are leaving.

The range of emotions around our facilities is hurting our soul and I don’t take this lightly. I love “going” to church, even while I fully embrace that the church is not the building.

The bigger questions are below the surface. The Building Blues are a true call to answer the question of purpose.

Why does my congregation exist?

What are our values?

Clarity of purpose and values gives us a platform for making hard decisions about our buildings. Our purpose and values call us to sell, to move, to downsize, to build or more. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to every building question, but there must be, at the heart of this lament, a passion for the Gospel or we aren’t really talking about God’s church. We are stalled in our own nostalgia. Admit it.

Votes to build need to include the voices of the people who will carry the mortgage and the mission forward. They can even include partners in the community who care about the purpose and values.

We can renovate for the people who are in the room right now, or we can build our vision for the future with a generous, caring commitment to the people in our neighborhood.

This is a leap of a faith.

If you find yourself being drawn into lament after lament, it is a good sign that it is time to push the purpose of the congregation out into the world around you.

Nothing gets rid of the blues more than hope.

The Shift from Slump to Fantastic

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

There is this moment between doing nothing and doing something to pay attention to. That moment when every part of you (or maybe just me) feels like it’s going to be rough to ramp up, to get a spark of energy that drives the future. The question is, what is going on in that moment?

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, it’s been too long since you’ve had time off. Slowing down from a busy leadership role is essential for our health. Even a few days makes a difference.

But shifting back into gear can come with resistance. We can find ourselves craving more rest (that’s a good sign that we need it).

So how do you move from off to on? There is only one thing that really works for me (and hopefully it will for you too).

Having a firm hold on the answer to this question:

Why am I doing this? Or from a faithful perspective: Why is God doing this through me?

If I can’t answer that question, I doubt I can drum up the energy to get moving.

With clarity on “why, with God’s help,” I can move pretty quickly to the question of “how,” and then one thing leads to another.

Answering “why” is the prayer that gives us a glimpse at the larger vision. Vision is the fuel for leadership. Proverbs 29:18, from The Message, says it this way:

If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed.

This makes me think about the Apostle Paul’s ministry as he retells his conversion story to people everywhere he goes. You can join me in wondering if he, himself, needed to rehear this over and over in order to keep going; if he was envisioning himself moving forward, one retelling at a time. This is worth more reflection.

The shift from slump to fantastic is always about joining in God’s why for our life. Shifting gears may come slower in certain seasons, but it will be a bigger struggle if we are only plugging in to ourselves.

Fall is Still the Beginning of My Year

by Jinny Sutherland Breedlove, LEAD Strategic Projects

This past May, the youngest of my four children graduated from high school. After 24 years of having a child in our public school system, I’m no longer beholden to that calendar. However, I still can’t help but think of this as the beginning of the year.

January 1 can claim the possibilities that come with New Year’s resolutions, but the start of school? That’s about learning opportunities! True confession – I’m a school supply nerd, so it’s also a chance to get a new highlighter and some fun colored pens.

As I’m reflecting on the learning goals I’ll set for myself, it really boils down to what I’ll read.

Great news for me (and you) – LEAD is launching digital book discussions this fall with five amazing books! I’ve been in book clubs before, but never one I can attend while my dog sleeps on my bare feet.

I’m also intrigued by the chance to talk about the book with people from other places with lives different from my own.

If, like me, you’re thinking of the fall as the start of the year, check out #LEADReads!

#LEADReads

by David Hansen, LEAD Strategic Projects

LEAD is excited to announce #LEADReads  

A project to help leaders like you in your quest to continue to grow.

Think of it like a book club for awesome ministry leaders.

I remember when LEAD was launching, Peggy Hahn, Chris Hicks, and Vonda Drees went around the Gulf Coast Synod (and beyond) talking to leaders.

Shortly after that listening tour, I had lunch with Peggy and we talked about what she learned. One moment in particular has stuck with me.

Peggy: I can tell if a ministry is growing with just one question.

Me: Blank stare.

Peggy: What are you reading?

Peggy (continued): It doesn’t even matter what book they are reading. Leaders who are reading anything at all are growing – and the chances are better that their congregations are also growing. Leaders who are not reading are not growing. They have gotten stagnant. And chances are, their congregations have too.

Ever since then I have tried to be a leader who reads – a leader who thinks intentionally about how I am growing both as a leader and in my faith. I STILL don’t read as much as Peggy, but I try to always be reading and growing.

How about you? Are you a leader who is growing or ready to grow?

For this pilot of #LEADReads, we have selected five important books and a variety of times for you to sign up and read alongside us. In addition, as we read together, we will be joined by a facilitator and other leaders for regular conversation around the content we are encountering.

Oh wait – I almost forgot: for each book, one of our meeting sessions will be devoted to conversation WITH THE AUTHOR!

Why Bother

I get it. You are busy. Your continuing education budget is tight. Why should you find the time and money for one more thing?

  1. Accountability. We read and learn better when accountability is built into the system. With #LEADReads you will be  connected to a community of people who are reading along with you.
  2. Learning. Reading is great. Reading together is even better. Through conversation with others, the content we are reading becomes internalized and a part of who we are as leaders.
  3. Network. You are a growing leader. One way to continue to grow is to share ideas with other leaders who are also seeking to grow #LEADReads connects you to just such a network.
  4. Affordability. #LEADReads is an affordable continuing education experience. For just $45, you get two facilitated conversations around topics that will help you to grow as a leader AND a webinar with the author!

The Details

#LEADReads launches September 15, 2019. Register here where you can choose the book (or books) and times that are best for you to read with others. The following five books are featured during this fall session:

How to identify core values!

How to set annual goals!

How to make real change happen!

How to revitalize your congregation!

Please

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Please, we beg you: skip the well-read sermon.

If you get to speak in front of people, face to face, each week, and they are showing up, AND you are reading the sermon, STOP. They deserve more.

Memorizing the sermon is probably not getting us there either. I love this message from Seth Godin about the true work of knowing something by heart.

It is time to shift from the well-read, well-written sermon to something more important. We need to do the hard work of knowing the Biblical stories so well that we see them coming to life all around us in our daily life. Think parable. Here’s how this works for me:

  1. Experience life and notice God’s presence. Daily life is filled with these moments, but if they aren’t enough to spark your inner-storyteller, get out of your bubble by traveling to a new neighborhood, state, or country. There is nothing like leaving the grind of “normal” life to get reconnected to liminal space. This doesn’t have to cost money. It can literally mean getting to know your neighbors.
  2. Read. Feel free to read more than theology or leadership books. Read novels. Notice how characters are developed, what captures the imagination, and what creates boredom. Don’t read much? Then try audio books, podcasts, TED Talks, etc. The point is to watch how others manage the art of storytelling.
  3. Write. Literally write out the stories to identify the difference between rambling and making your point. Leaders with over-full lives will do better when they block out 30 minutes per day, or one day a week or 3 days a month, or a week per quarter to write. Writing takes focused, uninterrupted time for deep thinking. Clear convictions in tension with the Bible and the world written, edited, written, edited, etc. Not a writer? Try this anyway to deepen internal convictions with the weekly text or Biblical theme.
  4. Practice. Tell the sermon, out loud if possible, over and over. Seven times. Yes, I know, that takes time. A couple of hours during the week. AND it only works if the other three, above, are also happening. Don’t skip this step. This is where the biggest move from paper to truly embodying the message comes.

It’s a lot, but if people are giving us their time, it is the least we can do. For those who preach or speak publicly, we owe it to our audience to know our message by heart.

Please invest in preaching. Make it clear to your council and staff that this is essential work. You want them to understand and support your call to shape the faith and culture of your congregation in a way that people can repeat and engage.

We are looking for more than inspiration. We want a living faith that is contagious, one that is caught from leaders who are living out of a relationship with the Bible and the world. Clarify your convictions. Plan your preaching by carving out time (above) so you can step away from the well-written sermon and experiment with the well-lived Gospel. The church is counting on this.

Why Watching the Dog Doesn’t Work

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

When Dewayne and I got married, I discovered that his dog was a remarkable predictor of his behavior. I was new to this household and the lab offered me a guide to navigating what felt like a foreign culture to me. His behavior and expectations provided me with a beat on the daily liturgy of waking up, eating, working, eating and going to sleep. Plus, he knew where the important things in the house were kept.

Only watching the dog didn’t work.

All the dog could do was point to the past. A past that I wasn’t part of.

He was kind and welcoming to me, but he couldn’t show me a future dance. Dewayne and I had to muddle along until we figured that out together.

Honestly, the dog adapted to the new marriage faster than we did.

The older we get, the more likely it is that we have patterns of behavior that we may or may not even be aware of. Intellectually, adding new people to our lives seems like a good idea, but, emotionally, it can feel overwhelming. We know and feel comforted by our current way of being and the whole idea of new people messes with us.

Dewayne didn’t expect me to be exactly like his first wife. He is a generous, thoughtful person who knew he was inviting a whole new person in and that it would change the culture of his life. Yet he was unsure how to help me be me in a new world. I needed the courage to enter and the bravery to articulate my needs.

It takes courage for new people to walk in the door of your church too. They won’t be able to be brave or share their needs unless we create space for them to be them. We may not be sure how to do this, but we can be self-aware enough to notice our culture, we can be quiet enough to listen and, like my husband, we can be open enough to welcome the change.

Responding to Neighborhood Needs with Camp Hope

by Jessica Noonan, LEAD Director of Operations 

St. James Lutheran Church/Santiago Apóstol in Houston, Texas is passionate about the neighborhood where they are planted. They have developed strong partnerships with their neighbors and have a clear understanding of the needs that the community itself has identified. How did this happen?

First, they listened.

What did the leaders at St. James hear from their neighbors?

  • Their children lose valuable math and reading skills over the summer months. This learning loss puts their children at a disadvantage when they start school again in the fall.
  • Parents are struggling. They are asking for guidance around mental health resources and money management.
  • Their high school students need guidance to understand the college application process and need help with how to get prepared.

How could a church like St. James respond to these big needs?

St. James already has an active ministry reaching into the neighborhood – Camp Hope Day Camp. This unique ministry focuses on Biblical literacy in children and equipping/nurturing student leaders. Executed by high school and college age students from the congregation and community who are equipped to run the camp with adult mentors walking alongside them, Camp Hope is an amazing strategy for leadership development!

Camp Hope is already connecting St. James with the children and parents in the neighborhood. The question was how to expand it to address the deeper needs identified by these very families.

This summer, St. James applied for and received a $50,000 grant from United Way to assist them in hosting THREE Camp Hope Day Camps in THREE neighborhoods for THREE weeks each this summer! St. James is using this grant to address the community’s needs by:

  • Partnering with local agencies and organizations already working in these communities to execute Camp Hope.
    • The local YMCA will do daily fitness activities with campers.
    • Community Health Choice is developing curriculum for a daily “Parent Track” for caregivers at each site.
  • Empowering local teachers who are developing literacy and math skill resources to use alongside the Camp Hope curriculum to mitigate summer learning loss.
  • Utilizing the STEM track within the Camp Hope curriculum that uses hands-on science to teach the Bible story.
  • Providing “College Booster Sessions” for the high school staff to build up their skills for navigating the college application process and readiness for this next step in their education.

This is just one story of one congregation and its partnership with one community.

What’s your story?

Who are the neighbors surrounding YOUR church?

• Do you know their names?
• Do you know their stories?
• Do you know their dreams?
• Do you know their sorrows?

How might you find ways to listen and get to know YOUR neighbors?

Could Camp Hope be a ministry that provides the opportunity for you to get to know your neighbors?

This year marks Camp Hope’s 30th anniversary. All across the United States, churches are nurturing and developing the gifts of their students and students from the neighborhood to offer a high quality day camp for 2-3 weeks every summer.

Learn more about Camp Hope here!

Spiritual Practice. Just that.

This summer, LEAD is inviting you to truly appreciate all of God’s gifts through the spiritual practice of intention.

A spiritual practice is just that. Practice. The more it is practiced, the deeper and more fulfilling it feels. We are delighted that so many people are practicing being aware and living with God through LEAD’s intentions series.

This summer’s 40 daily intentions are totally free for you to use and share. You can sign up to receive the daily intention by email, view a new one each day on Facebook or check them out on the LEAD website.

Enjoy the life that God has given us!

Notice! Be curious! Be imaginative! Thank God! Share with others!

Big Bang of Pentecost

Out of a small, locked nucleus of a room–

God!

Light

Sound

a Force Field of energy

Cannot be contained

Cannot be exclusive

Cannot be stopped

And the cosmos is never the same again.

 

May God fill our locked nucleus-hearts

Till they explode open

With love that

Cannot be contained

Cannot be exclusive

Cannot be stopped!

And may the world never be the same again.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid.

by Lynn Willis, LEAD Spiritual Director

With

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

The Dalai Lama tells us that “The ultimate source of happiness is within us.” (The Book of Joy)
My Hindu neighbor tells me that “True consciousness is waking up to God within us.”
My Christian mantra is “The Lord be with you.” And the response is “And also with you.”

This word “with” is worth some reflection.

We are joined to Christ in the waters of baptism. We are clothed with God’s mercy and forgiveness. (Evangelical Lutheran Worship, Thanksgiving for Baptism, page 97)

Being with God is more than how we think about wine with dinner or being in bed with the flu. It is an intimate understanding of God dwelling within us.

Our Christian humility (or our personal insecurities) often get in the way of us truly embracing what this means:

If God is indeed within us, living out of this centeredness is at the core of what it means to live in faith.

Think about this in daily life: God is with us and within us in all we do.

What Is Wrong with the Church

Originally published at digitalpastor.org
by Pastor David L Hansen, LEAD Director of Communication and Innovation

We’ve all seen the numbers.

Across our country, church attendance is in decline. Liberal churches and progressive churches, traditional churches and contemporary churches, liturgical churches and praise and worship churches. It is affecting everyone.

Which begs the question: What is wrong with the church?

Or, as it is more commonly stated: What is wrong with MY church? 

There is a small industry built around this question. Gurus and consultants and authors and speakers all churning out books and speeches.

But what if there is nothing wrong with our church?

One of my mentors used to point out that the system is producing exactly the results that it was designed to produce.

There is not something wrong with the church – it is functioning in exactly the way we have set it up to function.

Why have we lost so many young people from the church for the last generation?

Because that is what the system is designed to do. 

Why do so many Christians never dig deeper in their faith?

Because that is what the system is designed to do.

Why is church attendance across denominations in a free fall?

Because that is what the system is designed to do.

The system is not broken. It does not need to be tweaked.

We need a new system.

A new way to live in Christian community.
A new way to form disciples and raise up leaders.
A new way to share the Good News that gives us joy.

What ails the church is not a thing that can be solved with a quick fix. 

We need to put everything except our passionate faith in Jesus on the table.

What would church look like if we set aside all the “we shoulds,” the “we have tos,” and the “we’ve always done it this way”?

We are called to be a new creation.

Let’s do it. Let’s embrace the creative opportunities presented by this moment in history, experiment with new models, and make space for the Holy Spirit to work amazing things.

Let’s do it together! Contact LEAD.

Each One Ask One

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Ask yourself this question: who invited you into leadership?

Better yet, ask yourself this: who are you inviting into leadership?

Each one of us need to invite ONE other person into professional ministry. Or be an over-achiever and extend the invitation to more than one.

The ELCA is having a leadership crisis largely because you and I are not extending the invitation.

Do this right now:

Write down the names of three people you could invite into leadership.

Wait! Don’t evaluate their skills, age, commitment or experience. Take a chance on others by looking past what they know and do right now to wonder what God might do through them. Be ready for them to take ministry into a new direction. In fact, encourage experimenting.

Now, set up time to talk with them, face to face. Sign up lists, emails and social media have their role but if you want to extend the leadership circle, a face to face conversation is pure gold.

We have what it takes to change the trajectory of our church and it boils down to a few things:

  • Trusting that the Holy Spirit is working through us and others.
  • Inviting others into leadership.
  • Trying new things.

People have taken a chance on me my whole life. I have constantly been invited to do things that I have not been equipped to do. My life has been a constant leadership school. How about yours?

I am so grateful for the many who have extended the invitation to me.

I want to personally thank four people, among so many:

  • Reverend Arno Martin, who invited me to be the first youth minister of a mission start congregation (All Saints, Aurora, Colorado) when I didn’t know what he was talking about, and neither did he!
  • Reverend Steve Quill, who invited me to be the first person to develop ministry for a new community center (New Hope, Missouri City, TX) when I had no vision for this ministry, and he was still working his out.
  • Bishop Paul Blum, who invited me to be the first person on the synod staff to focus on children, youth and family ministry, when by this time I had more visions than were possible for this work, and for some reason he trusted me to sort it out.
  • Bishop Michael Rinehart, who invited me to give leadership to LEAD when our visions were unfolding around us and we knew how important it was that we tried something new.

All of these people are pastors. Pastors are you inviting others in? Yet it doesn’t need to be a pastor. As a lay leader, I am truly aware that the power of invitation can come from anyone. Parents and grandparents, this is part of our role too.

Each one of us can invite another.

KonMari@church?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Does the space you worship God in each week reflect God’s joy to all that gather?

Do the nursery, restrooms, classrooms, and hallways reflect God’s joy to all that pass through them?

Does the church office reflect God’s joy to all that serve and are served daily in those spaces?

These are not rhetorical questions. When you walk through the buildings that we call God’s church, do you yearn for trash bags and a few hours to declutter these sacred spaces?

Most of our church buildings look like my garage did before it was flooded by Hurricane Harvey. It was filled with a few valuables and everything else was a donation from the past. Even now, almost two years and a repaired garage later, we must fight ourselves. We have had to make a family covenant to resist the urge to let things pile up. The car seats our grandchildren have grown out of. Those little cartons that bedding plants come in (and we might use later). Who are we kidding?

Yes, we have too much stuff. And so does the church. It feels horrible to compare churches to our garages, yet how can we welcome new people without dealing with leftovers from the past?

We can’t really expect to welcome new people if there are piles in the corners, untended landscaping or bathrooms that are – I’m being nice here – antiquated.

You may be thinking this is not your job. But if not you, who? Why not commission a KonMari team of trusted men and women who can go through the church over the next few weeks and give them the power to make decisions about what brings joy at your place? The trust and decision-making power are critical – without those, you’re just moving piles around. Put the people who care the most about the building on the team, include people from different generations, roll up your sleeves and feel the joy!

Change is not a Four-Letter Word, it is at the Core of our Faith

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

“I’m sick of hearing about change” is a common refrain I hear these days.

When I dig a little deeper, it feels like there are three perspectives on change in congregations:

  1. Just do it. Stop talking about it. What are we waiting for?
  2. What does this really mean for us? What needs to change? How do we do it?
  3. Don’t do it. We want to be left as we are. Why do we have to change?

Most of us will find ourselves resonating with all three perspectives, at different points in time, depending on what the change is asking of us.

Change is about loss and loss is about grief. We all fear different losses and grieve in different ways. It’s not a judgment on a person’s love for Christ or their church, however, change in the church is – dare I say this? – a question of our BAPTISMAL RESPONSIBILITY.

We are baptized into a community where we are entrusted with these responsibilities:

to live with others among God’s faithful people,
bring others to the word of God and the holy supper,
teach others the Lord’s Prayer, the Creed, and the Ten Commandments,
place in their hands the holy scriptures,
and nurture them in faith and prayer,
so that others may learn to trust God,
proclaim Christ through word and deed,
care for others and the world God made,
and work for justice and peace.
(adapted from Evangelical Lutheran Worship)

This is the promise we make over and over as we baptize. THIS is who we are. We are a baptizing people who have a responsibility to do what it takes to open the doors as wide as possible so that others may know Christ’s love.

In the end, it is not about the personal needs, preferences or favorites of any one of us. We are stewarding the community of the Baptized. It’s our watch and the world is turning fast, so we are stumbling as we run to keep up. Standing still in this whirlwind is not a faithful response to what it means to tend the movement of the Baptized. We have to move.

You belong to Christ, in whom you have been baptized. Alleluia.

A Bookish Goal – Understanding Lead Metrics:
Checking in with David

by David Hansen, LEAD Director of Communication and Innovation
Originally published on digitalpastor.org

My friend and collaborator, Peggy Hahn, posted in January about the books she read in 2018, and her 2019 reading list.

Peggy reads a LOT. 66 books last year. She always has, and it has always inspired me to want to read more. I mean, not enough to actually read more – but it sure does make me want to.

A Lag Goal

A few years ago, I was especially inspired by Peggy’s reading list. So, when January rolled around, I set a goal. Not an undefined resolution “to read more” – but a concrete goal.

This is what I had been taught. Set concrete, measurable goals rather than ill-defined, unattainable resolutions.

So, I set a goal: to read 24 books in that year.

It seemed doable!

In January, I read two books. Great.

In February, I only read half a book. But to be fair, it was a short month.

March and April had Lent and Easter, and it’s understandable that I didn’t read much then.

By June, halfway through the year, I was so far behind in my goal, that I just stopped counting. By the end of the year, I probably read five or six books total.

I completely failed, right?

After all, I didn’t reach my goal. So.

Or … maybe I had the wrong goal.

Or more specifically, the wrong sort of goal to have all by itself. I was measuring the wrong thing.

Leading Goals

“How many books I read this year” is a lag goal. By the time I am able to measure it (the end of the year), it is already done.

Even the monthly measurement of how many books I read each month is a lag goal – it helps a little bit in leading toward the goal of books per year, but not much.

Instead, this year I set a leading goal to go with the metric of how many books I read each month / year.

My goal is to read 30 minutes a day, more days than not (so, an average of at least four days a week).

How many minutes I read each day / week / month is a lead metric – changing that number will have a direct effect on how many books I read this year. 

Why Metrics Matters

In ministry, most of what we measure are lag metrics and goals.

They are things that – by the time we measure them – we cannot change them.

The recent work of LEAD has been centered around helping congregations and ministries to discern what are the right things to measure, and teaching how to set lead goals that will make a difference in that work.

I highly recommend to you the book Faithful Metrics, which deals with these questions. And if you are really interested in having measurements that make a difference in your ministry, consider inviting LEAD to come and do a Faithful Metrics seminar in your area.

And my 2019 reading? How is it going with my lead goal? As of April 21, I have finished 26 books – surpassing my initial lag metric goal of total books read for the entire year! So how are you doing with your 2019 reading?

Christ Is Risen!

CHRIST IS RISEN!

Not as a broken victim.
Not as an angry avenger.
But in Jesus’ third way:
with dignity, compassion and love.

Let’s set an intention
to walk in Jesus’ third way:
with dignity for all
compassion for all
and love for all.
And we ask God to help us.

Amen

by Lynn Willis, LEAD Spiritual Director

Sweet Holy Week…Every Day

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

While sitting on my lap a few years ago, my granddaughter was playing with the small cross I wear around my neck. As she turned the cross around in her hands, she shared her theological wisdom, saying loud enough for everyone to hear:

“JE-SUS DI-ED on a cross. He DI-ED on a cross. You know, JE-SUS DI-ED on a cross for EV-ER-Y-BODY.”

That was the first time she’d said it and I smiled at her Texas accent and profound words.

After that, every time I saw her, I do mean every time, she would hug me and say “JE-SUS DI-ED on a cross, for EV-ER-Y-BODY, yah know?”

Week after week, we heard this refrain. Soon, with Holy Week approaching, I felt a need to deepen her theology of the cross. I slipped a little silver heart on the same chain to see if she would notice.

The next time I saw her, she grabbed my necklace and started with the “JE-SUS…” then stopped in mid-sentence. She looked at me, tilted her head, and asked, “Hey, is Jesus your sweetheart?”

Wow. Is Jesus my sweetheart?

Just for a minute, I thought, I’m going with yes. Jesus is my sweetheart. A lover who lives with me through all the heartache, suffering, fear, joy, and excitement that life can bring. Living with Jesus as my sweetheart is kind of nice, right? Then it hit me. I was domesticating the resurrection for my personal benefit.

The me-and-Jesus romance is missing the real point of the crucifixion. I came desperately close to losing the power of the cross which she had already claimed in her childlike theological perspective.

“JE-SUS DI-ED on a cross, FOR EV-ER-Y BODY, yah know?”

Who’s outside of everybody? Sweet Holy Week is a pilgrimage marking the liberation of all of humanity.

“JE-SUS DI-ED on a cross, FOR EV-ER-Y-BODY, yah know?”

Yoga anyone?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

It is noisy in my head. When I worship, I am struggling to silence the noise. When I pray, I interrupt myself with thoughts that keep bubbling up. I know one of my flaws is endless thinking that leaves me with less space for being. I want to grow spiritually, but my brain wants to sort everything out.

Then I started going to yoga.

It is addictive because as I move, I pray. As I pray, I feel God moving in me. It’s the breathing. My brain gets quiet and my body relaxes. I could do this all day long.

I’ve come to understand that my spirituality is kinesthetic. Maybe this is why I loved walking the Camino de Santiago or hiking the Inca Trail so much. I need the space that only happens when movement halts my usual over-thinking self. I can forget myself which creates the space for me to feel God’s presence.

I have friends who are alarmed about a Christian being so attracted to a Hindu practice. Admittedly, I am attracted to my Hindu neighbor too. (Isn’t it wonderful to know interesting people?) But, for me, yoga isn’t about a Hindu practice. It isn’t about exercise. It is about creating space in my life to feel closer to God.

Gena Davis, an Episcopal priest, founded YogaMass that she describes as embodied spirituality on the mat, sharing Christ’s sacred meal. I have been in retreat with Rev. Davis and the experience is still in me.

I am not saying this is for everyone, but I am saying, engage in spiritual practices. Like most things, they feel awkward when you first start, but, over time, they become part of you. Enjoy raising your awareness of God moving in your life. This is what we were born for.

Lenten Leadership

by David Hansen, LEAD Director of Communication & Innovation 

Lent began with Ash Wednesday – a worship service that is built around a comprehensive confession and act of repentance.

As leaders, we too often forget the importance of this central act of our faith.

Confessing our errors. Asking for forgiveness. And then repenting – changing the ways we speak and act.

I get it. The world would be so much easier if everyone just agreed with me … but it hasn’t happened yet. Something tells me I shouldn’t hold my breath until it does.

If we live in a community – and especially if we lead in that community – we are going to have conflict with others in the community. It’s not a question of if, it’s a question of when.

Confessing Our Errors

So we are talking about the Lenten practice of confession. If you are anything like me, your first response is that it would be a whole lot better to talk about the things that other people need to confess. I’ve got a list for those people – I bet you do to.

But as leaders, we start with ourselves. We model how we are called to live in community. And no matter how my leadership has been lived out, there have been times.

  • Times when I have unintentionally hurt people with my words
  • Times when my actions have stepped on the toes of others
  • Times when I have chosen the wrong course of action
  • Times when my biases and emotions have gotten in the way of relationships with others

We aren’t taught this.

In fact, we are taught the opposite through all of our lives.

To say “I was wrong” is to show weakness. It gives people a way to criticize me and my decision making. It might become ammunition for people who want to take the organization in another direction.

The act of confessing is an act of vulnerability. And it is 100% necessary if we are to have any sort of meaningful community that is rooted in the Gospel.

Let’s be honest: The church has not been good at this.

We have taught confession, we have asked people to confess, but the church – those of us in leadership and the institution itself – has not done well about owning our own faults. To be a church in this new era of authenticity and accountability, that is something that we have to change.

As leaders, we are called to own our faults, errors, and mistakes, and to claim responsibility for them.

Finding Forgiveness

Forgiveness is tricky.

I can honestly confess my flaws and brokenness. But I can’t make people forgive me. That’s not how it works.

In teaching people how to pray, Jesus reminds them that they ought to forgive others in the same amount that they hope to be forgiven. Or, in the words of a prayer attributed to Francis of Assisi “It is in giving that we receive, it is in self-forgetting that we find, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in dying that we are raised to eternal life.”

In other words, if I want to receive forgiveness, then I need to become a person who offers forgiveness. If I want to be a part of a community where people’s flaws are greeted with mercy and understanding, then I need to treat people with mercy and understanding.

This is an essential aspect of any community – and as leaders if we are not modeling forgiveness and grace, we can’t expect to see it in our community.

Real Repentance

When I was a kid, my brothers and I would have the sort of conflict that brothers have. Upon finding us mid-fight, my parents would tell us to say we were sorry – which of course we did. And then, as soon as Mom and Dad were gone, we resumed our fight.

The root words for repentance means “to change one’s mind.” I love the translation of the Common English Bible (CEB), which consistently renders this is “change your hearts and minds.”

Real repentance doesn’t stop at confession and forgiveness. It involves action – changing our lives.

As we continue to live in community and lead those communities, we find that we are changed by those communities.

With genuine remorse for the ways – both intentionally and unintentionally – that my words and actions have negatively impacted others, I find myself seeking new ways of expressing myself and resolving the inevitable conflicts that arise in community.

The season of Lent, with its accompanying focus on spiritual discipline, is the perfect time for us to revisit the importance of confession, forgiveness, and repentance in our leadership.

Listening

by Dan Kuckuck, Pastor at St. Stephen Lutheran, Urbandale, IA and a LEAD Consultant

Vocation does not mean a goal that I pursue. It means a calling that I hear. Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.  — Parker Palmer

Samuel’s mother, Hannah, had gone for years without bearing any children. She prayed at the temple of the Lord and promised that if she bore a son, he would be given to the Lord’s service all the days of his life. Soon enough, Hannah conceived and bore a son. When he was weaned, he went to live in the temple under the direction of Eli the priest.

One night, Samuel thought he heard something. “Samuel!”

He thought it was his old priest, Eli, calling to him. (Because, you see, in those days the word of the Lord was rare.) Eli reassured him that it was all in his head and sent him back off to bed. God called the name “Samuel” two more times, totally baffling Samuel but confirming for Eli that this was, in fact, the Lord.

“Go lie down,” said Eli, “and should someone call to you, say, ‘Speak, Lord, for your servant is listening.’” And so the Lord called, and Samuel answered as instructed, and the Lord revealed, “I am about to do such a thing in Israel that whoever hears of it, both his ears will ring.”

From that quiet night, Samuel went on to be a great prophet of Israel—a leader, a kingmaker—helping to define the lives of faith for the next generation of God’s people. It would have never happened, though, if he hadn’t stopped to listen.

How much time each day do you spend listening? I don’t mean listening to music in the background, or listening to words being spoken in your general direction. I mean really listening—absorbing the words being said to you by a friend or spouse, without your mind wandering; and allowing the melodies of music to fill your soul, while doing nothing else (and certainly not driving).

Studies have shown that the average listener will only retain about 50% of a 10-minute talk immediately after hearing it. That means, right out of the gate, we’ve forgotten half of what we’ve heard. After 48 hours, that number drops to 25%. A poll of spouses might confirm even lower numbers.

You can imagine the scene of Samuel’s calling in the present day. With a television on in the background, music blaring, attention given to various devices and projects all at once, the whispered call of “Samuel” may not be as easy to hear. What’s more, if Samuel doesn’t choose to continue to listen, and instead dismisses his calling as a trick of the mind, the entire biblical narrative comes to a grinding halt. Listening is critically important.

Parker Palmer, the Quaker writer, thinks listening is of critical importance when it comes to discerning what our calling into the world is all about. “Vocation [calling] does not mean a goal that I pursue. It means a calling that I hear.” He goes on: “Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.” If you’ve ever wondered how God is calling you into the future without listening to what God has to say, you might find yourself wondering about that question for a long while.

When it comes to listening, we have work to do as people of faith. When we don’t listen, we miss things—important information, meaningful connections, beautiful melodies. When we do listen, however, the world changes. Beethoven’s Fifth becomes more than “bum-bum-bum-bummm,” but an entire symphony. The people around you have just as colorful and varied an emotional life as you do. We remember who is supposed to pick up the kids and who is supposed to make dinner. And we find that, in each day, there just might be a moment when your name is whispered by the God of all creation, calling you into a life that you would have never imagined on your own.

Listen up.

Money is NOT the Problem

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Fear of funding ministry is a blackhole for leaders as they move from awareness to concern to panic. I am constantly confronted by people on this downward path who are over-focused on this lag metric as a priority for their work in the church.

Shifting the conversation to God’s mission, to running experiments, to building relationships in the neighborhood and to having the courage to lead is primary to church life. Notice I didn’t say survival. The survival path is exactly the opposite of what I am talking about.

Trust me, I watch LEAD’s bank account, look at our cashflow and manage our spending as a regular part of my responsibilities as Executive Director. But if I waited to have enough money to carry out our vision, LEAD would not exist. We are learning SO much about how to partner with congregational leaders, like you, who are ready to step out in faith. We have story after story of congregations who are experimenting their way forward. You can do this.

Start by reading one of the books below around the council or staff table.

The truth is:

We have a vision problem, a spiritual problem, a courage problem, a commitment problem, but not a money problem.

Recommended reading:

A Leadership Opportunity for Youth

by Jinny Sutherland Breedlove, Camp Hope consultant

How are you growing student leaders?

For many churches, the answer is: “We aren’t. It’s not that we don’t want to, we just don’t know how.”

Building a leadership pipeline can be a critical first step. A leadership pipeline is an intentional way of developing leaders. It involves identifying future leaders (the youth in your congregation and their friends), planning their development, providing them opportunities to lead with committed mentors to accompany them, and measuring the results.

You’re saying: “Yeah, this is all great. But HOW???”

Camp Hope Day Camp Ministries provides one answer that’s been proven effective over the past 30 years.

Camp Hope Day Camp Ministries has grown student leaders in congregations across the U.S. and in El Salvador. (Click the icon or linked text for more details!)

Camp Hope is a student-led ministry that involves the entire congregation and the surrounding community to immerse campers in a new Bible story every day!

MORE THAN Vacation Bible School!

It provides three weeks of full-day programming with age-appropriate Bible study, art, games, snacks, drama and STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math) activities building on 15 Bible stories. Camp Hope day camp is not just for children in your congregation but for children from the whole community. This is an opportunity for your congregation to connect with the neighborhood, both the youth who participate as campers and staff AND their families (children take home discussion sheets with talking points from the day’s Bible story).

Opportunities for all!

Camp Hope is all led by high school and college age students who serve as paid staff. This is where the leadership pipeline comes in.

Camp Hope provides an opportunity for youth of all ages to participate. Students do not have to start as campers; they can enter in at any stage, based on their age and experience.

Camp Hope Leadership Pipeline

These are REAL jobs that provide REAL work experience as the youth grow deeper in their own faith and Biblical-literacy. All staff must apply and be interviewed for their positions and receive training in areas like behavior management, learning styles, and communication with their peers. Students who have served as staff have given many testimonials about the skills they learned and honed at Camp Hope. You can find them here: TESTIMONIES

NOT just a Day Camp!

Can Camp Hope curriculum be used for ministries other than day camp? You bet! You can purchase:

  • Full day curriculum (either 15 days, 10 days, or 5 days)
  • Sunday School curriculum for K-5th grade (15 lessons)
  • Sunday School curriculum for Junior High (15 lessons)
  • After school curriculum with Bible study and art (15 lessons)

Want to learn more about Camp Hope? Visit the Camp Hope Ministries website or contact Jinny Sutherland Breedlove, the Camp Hope consultant, at jinsport19@gmail.com.

Who’s Welcome at Your Leadership Table?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

This is not a rhetorical question. Who do you see as leaders and future leaders of your ministry?

LGBTQIA people are pushed out when a church body votes to limit their leadership.  We are also pushing people out if there is an affirming vote without changing expectations to make room for a wider understanding of human relationships.1

As the waves of the United Methodist Church vote create pain and sadness in the hearts of people across the world, what’s happening at your place? Other denominations have been where our UMC colleagues are today. They too had to make decisions about their policies and polity and it caused deep divisions in their churches.

Do you have the courage to advocate for a leadership table that looks like the people living in your neighborhood? It is a lot easier to be frustrated with a church body than it is to step up and act on personal convictions.

Don’t miss the fact that how we act in the congregation or in our own homes is a bigger part of this story than any denominational vote.

The invitation to Christian leadership is our work. Who we raise up as gifted, trustworthy, talented or capable of leading is impacted by our personal or corporate blind spots. Those of us who are “in” are making decisions about who is invited to the table and we are choosing people who look, act and lead like us pretty much every time.

Can you see the problem here? We are all complicit.

As a friend wrote recently, “God specializes in desperate, hopeless situations…God will use us when we are wounded, redeem us when we are despairing, and send us out to transform the world and its systems, even when they hate us for it.”

Following Jesus means recognizing that we aren’t the only ones with power. It means recognizing that all have power and agency. It means using our power in ways that uplift the collective rather than hoarding it for ourselves. With our power comes responsibility. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people in leadership say, “But I don’t really know any __(you fill in the blank)__ people,” as if that justifies the homogeneity of the community.

Friends, it is time to go for a walk and meet the neighbors. Getting out of our echo chamber takes intentionality.

Building Christian leadership table is our work. How are we using our power to support God’s vision for the world?

It starts with us as individuals.

How are you making room in your life and at your leadership table for a diverse population? Are you welcoming immigrants? Are you welcoming people of all races and ethnicities? Of all sexual orientations and gender orientations? Of all ages, abilities and socioeconomic status? Your honest answer to these questions has enormous implications for our Christian leadership tables.

“All are welcome” is not just a slogan to make you feel good if what you’re really saying is “all who look and act like we do are welcome.” Jesus truly welcomed all to the table and calls us to do the same.

If your gut feeling is resistance, I encourage you to get a small group of 6-8 people together, either face-to-face or digitally, to wrestle with your anxieties about diversity. There is a lot at stake here. Work Out: An invitation to connect, by Peggy Hahn, Kristen Krueger, and Rozella H. White, is a LEAD resource for those who want to explore how to work outside their relational comfort zones. There are tons of other books worthy of study as well. More importantly, there are people all around us who may not know they are loved by a God who does not judge like people do. Sharing this love is the whole point.

  1. See Public Statement Concerning the Revision of “Vision and Expectations” by Extraordinary Lutheran Ministries)

Your Church: A Seminary?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

People are learning something at your church.

It may be intentional or accidental, or a bit of both, but people are learning:

  • How to act at church.
  • How people at your church engage the larger world.
  • How people at your church pray, study scripture and worship.
  • How people at your church apply all of this in their homes, at work, or when they are out in the world during good times and hard times.

People may even think that the way you are doing it at your church is THE only way to be a person of faith.

Historically, the local congregation was the seminary. This makes me wonder:

What would happen if we reclaimed this call? I am not imagining the local church would take over ALL theological education, but what if we understood this as our greatest purpose? Would that result in people loving their neighbors? Or inviting others to learn more about God?

Join me in getting curious about this. This Christian Century article has my head spinning. Imagine if we reclaimed even a portion of the call to grow theologically-informed spirituality? I know this is in the DNA of many of us, but we would have to say it out loud. We would have to build systems to support this. New systems.

I think we would throw out Sunday School as too small a vision and embrace lifelong learning in some holistic form of intergenerational ministry that is yet to be mainstreamed. It would be a sent rather than gathered type of seminary.

Why not innovate at your place? Your congregation might figure out what the rest of the world is waiting for. Invite us into this conversation. Our LEAD Team is wondering, what it would look like if church was a seminary-of-home-work-and-street? #Seminarytogo?

What’s trending?

by Lynn Willis, LEAD Spiritual Director

Tiny houses, minimalism, and even Marie Kondo’s bestselling book and TV show about tidying up! It seems like more and more of us are craving some simplicity in our lives.

Some of us are rejecting any difficult concepts in an effort to simplify. Scientific complexities, difficult transitions, and even other people are being ignored or pushed away in an effort to achieve some sort of black and white simplicity.

A different way might be to follow Mary Oliver’s (Pulitzer Prize winner in Poetry 1983) advice:

Instructions for living a life. 
Pay attention. 
Be astonished. 
Tell about it.

By truly noticing (which is the “magic” in Kondo’s tidying advice!) and delighting in our life with God, we can do a simple thing each day. By doing a simple thing each day we might feel that it’s not so hard to hang out with God after all!

This spring, as Lent comes into our lives again, let’s do something other than giving up chocolate for 40 days. Let’s pay attention – use the senses, curiosity and imagination that God gave us to truly notice this life. Let’s spend the day being astonished and sharing that excitement with God. And then let’s share that joy.

Set an intention every day to notice a simple thing. Sign up to receive a daily Lenten intention in your inbox starting on Ash Wednesday. Each week’s Intentions are drawn from the Revised Common Lectionary Psalm for the week.

Who has a key to your church?

By Jessica Noonan, Director of Operations – LEAD

Who has a key to your church?” I asked, and the whole youth and family ministry team laughed.

The question I should have asked is, “Who doesn’t have a key to your church?

They laughed because it’s common knowledge in their congregation that everyone has 24-7 access to their church and it’s likely there has never been a system in place to monitor that access.

You might be wondering, “Why wouldn’t we want congregation members to be able to get into the church whenever they want, it’s a communal space, right?”

While it’s true that our buildings provide shared space for meeting, connecting, celebrating, grieving, and sharing in life together, what I am concerned about is the vulnerability we unknowingly and unintentionally create when we don’t carefully consider and act in ways to protect the children and youth who gather there.

On this particular morning, I was with congregations for a pilot workshop developed by LEAD and the Texas-Louisiana Gulf Coast synod office entitled “Creating Safe Spaces.” The goal of the training is to assess the challenges and opportunities of the congregation with regard to the systems, guidelines and training of the adult leaders and the families with whom they work. It’s critical for congregations to develop safety guidelines, systems for training and screening adults, and awareness of the importance of all of these things in our faith communities.

I hear from people all the time who want their church to be a safe place for the people who gather there, and for those who are not yet there. They want to welcome and invite new people into the journey God is leading them on. They want to provide a safe place for children and youth in the congregation and the neighborhood. But how can a church be a safe place for children and youth when empty, unused rooms are not locked on a Sunday morning? When adults working with VBS and Sunday School aren’t background checked and trained? When we don’t take the time to create guidelines for what is acceptable and expected of adult leaders? Would you allow your child to go to a school where the teachers weren’t screened and trained? Why would we expect less of our congregations and ourselves?

Let’s start the conversation now.

In your congregation…

  • What are the requirements and expectations of leaders working with children/youth?
  • Do you have written guidelines about healthy boundaries between adults and children/youth?
  • Are your adult leaders background checked and screened?
  • Are your adult leaders trained on your guidelines and expectations?

If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, it is time to talk with your church leadership about taking steps to make positive change in your congregation. It’s time to make your church a safe place for all ages.

For more information about the Creating Safe Spaces workshop, contact LEAD.

Bibliotheca-What’s on Your List?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

What are you reading? This is a real question. You can share your lists in the comments at the bottom of the post on the website/blog or on Facebook. I really want to know!

I read 66 books last year (that’s not counting articles or videos). Some were better than others.

I read to learn, to challenge myself and to relax and, as you can see from my list, almost any genre is fine!

Let’s encourage each other to read more this year.

I would LOVE to see your lists.

I am still forming my list for this year and would love to add your recommendations as I plan my personal continuing ed.

Here are a few goals that will drive my book choices:

Personally, this year I want to deepen my spirituality, grow my theological lens, walk more (audio books!) and expand my cultural sensitivities. Some of this will happen through the books I read.

Professionally, this year I want to help LEAD scale. That is a different reading list. And it will also include seeking out mentors and interviewing others who are growing their own organizations. Listening deeply will be crucial.

So, what are you reading? My goal this year: 100 books. So far, I’ve read two.

Send me your best suggestion (skip the ones that were a snooze).

Thanks for taking a minute to respond here on the bottom of this page or on our Facebook page.

2018 books not in any order…

  1. Dare to Lead by Brene’ Brown
  2. The War of Art by Steven Pressfield
  3. The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander
  4. Faith Formation with a New Generation by John Roberto
  5. Before and After Page Design by John McWade
  6. Perfectly Yourself by Matthew Kelly
  7. Your Leadership Edge by Ed O’Malley and Amanda Cebula
  8. The Tangible Kingdom by Hugh Halter and Matt Smay
  9. The New Science of Radical Innovation by Sunnie Giles
  10. Designing your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
  11. Simple Rules by Donald Sull and Kathleen Eisenhardt
  12. The Power of Moments by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
  13. Flourishing in the Ministry by Benjamin M. Kaufman
  14. Reinventing Organizations by Frederic Laloux
  15. Putting on the Mind of Christ by Jim Marion
  16. Integral Spirituality by Ken Wilber
  17. Is your God Big Enough? Close Enough? You Enough? by Paul Smith
  18. The Death of the Mythic God by Jim Marion
  19. Linchpin by Seth Godin
  20. Preparing the Pastors We Need by George Mason
  21. Do the Work by Steven Pressfield
  22. White Working Class by Joan Williams
  23. Scaling up Excellence by Robert Sutton and Huggy Rao
  24. The Roman Empire and the New Testament by Warren Carter
  25. The Spirit-Filled Life by Charlie Holt
  26. Facilitating Organization Change by Edwin Olson and Glenda Eoyang
  27. Becoming a 21st-Century Church by Fred Lehr
  28. The Ultimate Board Member’s Book by Kay Grace
  29. So Much Better by Brenda Harewood, Bruce Roberts, James Bowers, Janet Maykus, Kelli Walker-Jones, Larry Dill, Lis Van Harten, Marianne LaBarre, Penny Marler, Richard Hester, Sheila Kirton-Robbins
  30. The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander
  31. Visionary Leadership in a Turbulent World by Rob Elkington, Madeleine van der Steege, Judith Glick-Smith, Jennifer Moss Breen
  32. The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker
  33. The Art of Community by Charles Vogl
  34. Getting Things Done by David Allen
  35. Elastic by Leonard Mlodinow
  36. The Storyteller’s Secret by Carmine Gallo
  37. The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
  38. The Beautiful Mystery by Louise Penny
  39. Mindset by Carol Dweck
  40. A Fatal Grace by Louise Penny
  41. Still Life by Louise Penny
  42. The Cruelest Month by Louise Penny
  43. A Rule Against Murder by Louise Penny
  44. The Brutal Telling by Louise Penny
  45. A Trick of the Light by Louise Penny
  46. The Long Way Home by Loise Penny
  47. How the Light Gets In by Louise Penny
  48. A Great Reckoning by Louise Penny
  49. The Nature of the Beast by Louise Penny
  50. How the Light Gets In by Louise Penny
  51. Glass Houses by Louise Penny
  52. Invisible Influence by Jonah Berger
  53. Rebel Talent by Francesca Gino
  54. Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer (again!)
  55. The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer
  56. Blue Ocean Shift by W. Chan Kim and Renée Mauborgne
  57. Thank You for Being Late by Thomas Friedman
  58. The Dip by Seth Godin
  59. Declutter Your Mind by S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport
  60. All Marketers are Liars by Seth Godin
  61. Richard Rohr on Transformation by Richard Rohr
  62. Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer
  63. When by Daniel Pink
  64. The Open Organization by Jim Whitehurst
  65. The Book of Joy by Desmund Tutu, Dalai Lama and Douglas Carlton Abrams
  66. Tattoos on the Heart by Gregory Boyle

Intensive Learning – Building New Habits

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD-Executive Director

LEAD is offering a series of intensive learning opportunities this year. We are taking all we have learned in the past six years and putting it out there so you can access it from the comfort of your own phone, computer or tablet.

Why?

Because habits are difficult to transform – especially if we try to do it alone. Yet there is proof that new behaviors can transform our lives and maybe even our congregations.

You can be part of LEAD’s very first Intensive opportunity, the Congregational Council Intensive. What does it look like?

  • Intensive trainings will be fast, focused and friendly
  • Four 2-hour online sessions with LEAD staff and leaders, just like you, from across the country
  • A network of leaders who are committed to learning and growing together
  • Four different topics of critical importance to leaders
    • Goals for change
    • Practicing courageous faith
    • Lead to learn through experiments
    • Sparking generosity
  • Weekly rhythm of preparation, learning, and tangible next steps to apply what you’ve learned

Check it out! You have until January 31 to register. We know that’s fast, but it’s a new year, why wait?

If now’s not the right time for you, watch for future intensives. Or better yet, sign up to be the first to know when new opportunities are available.

Send us your leadership questions to help shape the content of future intensives. If you want to get a direct email on future intensives as they are developed, become a LEAD partner by clicking here.

We hope you join groups that help you maintain new habits this year. Resolutions are fun, but building new habits takes work that is more sustainable with support. Happy New Year!

Inviting

by David Hansen, LEAD Director of Communication & Innovation

Many congregations are “welcoming.” In fact, more often than not, congregations go out of their way to describe how “friendly” they are. I suspect that if we were to ask, 90% of US congregations would describe themselves as more friendly than the average congregation.

The thing about being welcoming and being friendly is that they are passive attributes. You either are, or you aren’t.

By contrast, congregations that are thriving tend to be “inviting” congregations, rather than welcoming or friendly.

The act of invitation is active. It requires us to do something – to initiate a change in our relationship with our neighbors.

What does it look like to be an inviting disciple?

Asking

Too often we neglect the power of a simple invitation. “Would you like to go to worship with me this Easter?” “I’m hosting a Bible study on Thursday – can I save you seat?”

A good invitation is specific. General invitations almost never lead to specific plans (“Hey, we should get together sometime”). Invitations become effective when we invite people to a specific event, at a specific time. In our case, a specific event at the church or worship service on a specific date.

The best invitations also involve accompaniment. There is risk in going to a new place. Walking in alone. Not knowing who to talk to. An effective invitation lets people know that they will not be alone – the words “with me” are key.

Honesty

Of all places, it is the church that often struggles with honesty. We want to paint our community in the best possible light – show people the best of who we are.

But, if we invite people without being honest about whom we are, we could wind up disappointing both them and ourselves.

Learning to be invitational includes taking a hard look at ourselves. What is the preaching like, what does the community look like, how is the music, what is the programming, and who is really welcome as a part of the community?

Making Space

As you walk into church on a Sunday morning, ask yourself how the space would feel for a new visitor. Is it easy to find your way around? What is it like meeting new people? Are there signs? How was the parking?

When we step out of our own current experience, we begin to see things that we would otherwise miss. Many of these are things that we can make a difference in, in order to make space for the new visitor.

When pulling into the parking lot, we can park a little farther from the door, leaving closer parking spaces for visitors who arrive after us.

When we sit down in the worship space, we can move toward the front and middle of the row – leaving space on the end of the row and near the back for the visitors who come after us.

We can introduce ourselves to people we haven’t met yet. When we go to get our coffee, we can offer directions to someone who looks a little lost.

Just opening our eyes to the visitor’s experience helps us to become more invitational.

What will you do this week to become an inviting disciple?

Foundations of a Leader’s Influence

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD-Executive Director

Take a few deep breaths.

Inhaling the Holy Spirit blowing through our lives can remind us of three things that are foundational:

  1. We are already loved and good enough.
  2. We can love ourselves. (Read this one over and over. Influence starts here.)
  3. We can love the people we lead. (Gulp. Without this, there is no influence.)

I’m talking about agency, the ability to alter your environment according to your goals and to make things happen.

Agency allows people to use their God-given power to lead. Leading out of agency is more like a nourishing, steady rain falling on dry land than it is like a tropical storm that leaves debris behind. We can do this because our ultimate agency is rooted in our baptism, not in our own capacity.

Leading from this place gives us courage to take time off and focus with diligence on the things that may be hard but are meaningful and produce needed changes.

I find it interesting that many of the roadblocks we face in our leadership are part of systems and structures previous leaders constructed to succeed in their own leadership in a previous era. Redesigning these systems can feel daunting, even impossible. This makes me wonder, why don’t we simply refocus our efforts to design new pathways forward instead of spending time trying to redesign the current systems?

Christian leadership is claiming our God-given agency for mission. The structures around us are what determine or limit decisions and actions. If we let them.

Top 10 of 2018

Before we begin the countdown, we want to highlight a very special series of reflections by Lynn Willis about her experiences at the 2018 Parliament of World’s Religions. Beautiful and powerful, they are well worth a read.

And now, without further ado, we are excited to share our most-read blogposts of 2018. Take a moment to revisit your favorites or to catch up on those that you may have missed.

10. How do you measure what matters? by Peggy Hahn

9. Closing the Back Door: It’s about relationships by Peggy Hahn

8.Walking a Labyrinth: A visit to the grocery store by Peggy Hahn

7. Alarming Faith by David Hansen

6. Embodied Faith: The ELCA Youth Gathering by Rozella White

5. 6 Objections to Online Ministry by David Hansen

4. Smelly Church by Peggy Hahn

3. When Caring Is Killing Us by Peggy Hahn

2. Throw Away Your Mission Statement by David Hansen

And now…this is it!

[Drum roll please]

Our most-read blogpost of 2018:

1. Dear PBS by Kristen Krueger

Remember, this is just a tiny sample of the 300+ blogposts available on the website! If you don’t see what you’re looking for (or if you want more), you can check them all out here!

For Your Church Too


by Peggy Hahn, Executive Director, LEAD

Before you make your final end of the year gifts, read this.

“When I first came to this congregation, I knew there was a lot of opportunity, but I didn’t know where to start. The LEAD Journey has given us a vision for the future, skills to achieve that vision and, after almost three years, the path is clear. LEAD has helped us see a vision that we are still working out.” Pastor Mike Louia, First Lutheran, Ellicott City

LEAD has learned a lot in the past six years and we want to share it with you by taking advantage of technology and all we know to help leaders. The sooner, the better.

This is for you, and your church too. New learning is not limited by congregational size or location, if people have a passion for mission.

Join us, as together, we help caring people across the world discover their God-given path forward.

A gift of any size will help us reach the Challenge Goal of $10,000 this season. Every gift to LEAD is a gift to Christian leadership development.

Our vision is to create an interesting, meaningful digital and relational network that launches a movement of leaders.

We need your help to make this happen.

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On a very practical level, your support will be used to bring together wise leaders to innovate. The technology is easy and available. Curating the best material for you is the most important work we can do. Please be an early adopter and partner with us now!

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of our hearts be acceptable in your sight O Lord.

Hospitality Is Bigger Than You Think!

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

As I was sitting in the back of worship at my home congregation recently, it hit me like a ton of bricks – there are little things that make a BIG difference and they are happening at my church! Here is what I saw:

  1. Half the people in worship were under age 35.
  2. Half of those people had coffee mugs in their hands. Yep, right in worship! Not even trying to hide it.
  3. Half of the people had little children, most under age 4 (based on their height & wiggles).
  4. One dad had his small daughter on his shoulders so she could see all the action in the front of the room, concert-style.
  5. There was a big basket in the back of the church, that you had to pass on your way in, filled with baggies of stickers, colors, coloring sheets, pipe cleaners, etc. Free for the taking. Most children in the room were already busy exploring their bags.
  6. Worship leaders included youth, young adults, families ushering together. One dad was even carrying his son, as he helped his older son pass the plate, while mom worked the other side of the room.
  7. Everyone came to communion. Most just walked through the stations and returned directly to their seats, but there were others who knelt for prayer during the distribution of the elements. There was no one “right way” to take communion. And this was good.
  8. The PowerPoint projection was clear, easy-to-read and the words on the screen actually matched what we were singing. No one had to flip from slide to slide to find the right verse. There was even a short video which was reflective, meditative, and meaningful to me.
  9. The music was very singable, though not all upbeat. Yes, it was a “contemporary” service but it wasn’t endless repetitions of the same four lines…
  10. It was clear the congregation (not just the ushers) was expecting visitors, as everything was easy to follow.

I visit a lot of congregations and I don’t see this everywhere. But I do see lots of potential. Most congregations could ask the tough question “is our culture here (or perhaps more to the point, “is our list of do’s and don’ts that shape our worship culture”) really about worshiping God or is it more about worshiping the space or maybe something else entirely?”

My best thinking is that if you want to increase the hospitality of your congregation, step one is to worship as a visitor at a few other congregations to better understand what it’s like to be new. You’ll discover that it’s not the big things that trip up newcomers. It’s the nuances that are “normal” in your congregation but may not be happening in another congregation, much less in the real world.

Step two is to widen your generational lens. How are families welcomed? Something simple like using this bulletin insert (PDF or Word) (or something with fewer words that you could project on a screen) could go a long way in letting families know the community is expecting them at worship.

It’s hard to evaluate ourselves since so much of what we do is automatic. Intentional hospitality is not just for worship, but that is a good place to start. It would be awesome for members of neighboring congregations to visit each other’s place and offer some constructive feedback.

What are the little changes that can be made in the worship experience at your congregation that will have a big impact for visitors?

Calling all Leaders!

by Peggy Hahn, Executive Director – LEAD

Calling all leaders to join us in our vision for 2019!

LEAD has received a $10,000 challenge grant from our amazing Board of Directors because they believe that through the power of the Holy Spirit, leaders grow churches!

LEAD has been working directly with 80+ congregations across the country to grow leaders who grow their congregations and we are ready to blow the doors off this process with a new digital network of videos and resources that are available to YOU and YOUR CONGREGATION 24-7, 365 days a year anywhere in the world!

What our current partners are saying:

I am looking at my church in new ways. I have hope for my congregation and feel like I know how to lead. The work we are doing with LEAD is changing our understanding of why we exist.

We are amazed at where our church is today, after two years on the LEAD Journey. The changes happened first in us, as a leadership team, then in others in the congregation. We are truly engaged in our neighborhood  with new partners.

Our congregation took a while to really listen in the neighborhood. We were anxious because the people around our congregation are very different from our members. Now that we have started listening, we are amazed at how grateful people are that we are showing up and caring about what they have to say. We aren’t sure exactly what will come out of this, but we know we will not be the same congregation in three years. It is exciting to think about the possibilities.

Are you ready to take your skills to the next level?

Are you ready to transform your congregation for mission and to establish vital neighborhood partnerships?

Are you a church council member? A first call pastor? Outdoor ministry leader? Young leader? Leader in crisis?

LEAD is here for YOU! We want to be YOUR go-to leadership development organization and YOUR gift to LEAD will help make this happen!

Christmas Blessing 2018

May we live this Christmas Day on purpose
as our gift to God.
May every breath,
every word,
every moment,

honor the miracle we celebrate today:

God as human
God in every human
God with us

Emmanuel

by Lynn Willis, Spiritual Guide – LEAD

Tis the season…of job reviews, feedback and reactions

 

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Receiving feedback is a skill essential for adaptive leadership. Before you cringe with disgust, pain or boredom, consider this:

Accepting feedback at work is important,
but in families, it’s vital.
– Bruce Feiler, New York Times columnist and author 

The book Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen is the go-to resource for upping your leadership game as you grow through feedback from others. Learning to take a few steps back from the ledge of your own triggered reactions to feedback will shape your identity as a leader in ways that affirmation never will. This is one of the most important leadership practices and gifts you can share with others.

Here are three reasons why:

  1. Inquiring Minds Want to Know: Understanding that the brain is constantly under construction can help us navigate feedback. One of the brain’s primary survival functions is to manage approach and withdrawal. We tend to move toward things that are pleasurable and withdraw from things that are painful. Like sex, drugs, food, and exercise, feedback boggles the brain and mucks up the approach-withdrawal system. Doing what feels good now may be costly in the long run. What is healthy in the long run, may feel painful now. Think about this:

We all have a baseline. This is our default way of managing our emotions. We are not blown in completely new directions by each gust of wind that comes our way because we have an established way of navigating life.

We all have a swing. This is how far up or down we go when confronted by input from others. While this is prewired from infancy, it can be altered. (Keep reading!)

We all have to recover. This is how long it takes to return to baseline after good or bad news. Some of us recover quickly. Others get stuck for extended periods of time as they spin on the information received. Researcher Richard Davidson has found that recovery time can differ by as much as 3,000 percent between individuals.

Practices such as meditation, prayer, serving others, worship and exercise can raise your baseline over time. Life events that involve trauma or depression can have a profound impact on your baseline as well. Being engaged in a deep, relational community (like a congregation at its best) can rewire our brains to manage feedback in a positive way and raise our baseline.

  1. Implicit Rules Can Be Roadblocks: Understanding that the culture of our work environment (or our family culture) is filled with the implicit rules of “how we do things around here” is important to managing feedback. Discovering how we come across helps us increase our positive impact on others within a culture that operates differently from our own. This is more complex than saying one way is right (your way) and one way is wrong (their way). Feedback on how we are operating outside of a given cultural norm is gold, helping us lead within the context of a different worldview. By understanding more about the culture, even if we don’t like it, we can be more effective in influencing the future.
  1. Impact vs. Intent Matters: Feedback helps us see the gap between how we believe we come across and how we are actually received. Our own hopes and good intentions contribute to the story we tell ourselves, but they aren’t part of the stories others hear. Instead of immediately reacting to what we learn about how others experience our leadership, take a step back, take a deep breath, and learn from the new mirror offered to us. This mirror will show you your best self and, at the same time, provide a picture that may not be what you intend to communicate. The gap between the two is something you can only close if you are aware it exists. Here are a few examples from Stone and Heen:

Rather than immediately reacting to contradictory feedback, take a breath and consider how the same behavior is being described in different ways. It could be that others misunderstood you or it may be that you are unaware of your impact. Either way, when you hear feedback that catches you off guard, you can use it to learn about how you come across. You can ask yourself, “Do I have a blind spot in this area?” We all have them, so take another deep breath and love yourself enough to invest in personal growth.

The role of a faith community is huge in helping people navigate feedback. Don’t miss the point made earlier: a person’s baseline reaction to feedback can be altered in a positive way by meditation, prayer and service to others. We can use this for our own benefit and we can offer this to our congregation as a quiet way of loving them as we love ourselves.

Stories from the Parliament.
Physical Meets Worship

Lynn Willis, LEAD’s Spiritual Guide, attended the 2018 Parliament of the World’s Religions in Toronto November 1-7. She will be sharing her experiences and reflections in a series of newsletter articles.

This is my body. Upon hearing these words, while flowing through a series of standing yoga postures, it all became crystal clear. It was one of those aha moments in life. It felt as if the heavens had opened up and downloaded clarity into my whole being. This is my body.
The Reverend Gena Davis, Episcopal priest, yoga instructor and founder of YogaMass

Physical awareness and physical movement were vital parts of many of the worship services at the Parliament. And here’s the surprise. I found it even in Christian services!

I read somewhere that modern Western people think of their bodies as vehicles to get their brains to meetings (and to worship services too, I might add). There are wonderful antidotes for this. Here are a couple that I experienced at the Parliament.

YogaMass

The chairs were pushed back to the wall, the floor was spread with yoga mats and live musicians provided sweet sounds. We were led in a series of yoga poses, each one increasing our energy and awareness. When we were truly feeling alive and open, Rev. Gena Davis filled our hearts with a homily. Then we shared the Eucharist. There was tactile energy in the room and a wonderful camaraderie among the worshipers.

YogaMass bridges yogic principles and practices with Christian spirituality and worship as a path for bringing the whole self (body, mind, soul and spirit) to the experience of spiritual awakening.

The Cosmic Mass

Around 200 people in the room. 10 foot puppets. An opera solo as invocation. This is not your grandmother’s Christian worship. And yet, the Cosmic Mass draws on ancient human forms of worship – song and dance, joy and mourning, creativity and strength – to bring the worship out of our heads and into our hearts and bodies.

We formed a line dance to express joy, we curled up on the floor and wailed our grief and mourning (this was extraordinary for me – I have never been in the company of so many people who are crying and moaning and being vulnerable).

We greeted each other. We experienced the Eucharist. We jumped and danced and sang. I left this service exhilarated.

Created by Matthew Fox, the Cosmic Mass deconstructs the Western liturgical tradition by employing indigenous and rave elements, live music, and other methods, in order to awaken a cosmic sense and to create a sacred space connecting community, Earth and the cosmos.

Dances for Universal Peace

While this isn’t exclusively Christian and wasn’t even a worship service per se, I want to add this as something you might like to explore.

Each day, dashing between rooms for the next session, I would see rings of dancers. Simple, repeated steps; all shapes and colors of people; simple chanted tunes. Everyone looked peaceful, happy and engaged.

Building on the work begun by Samuel L. Lewis in the 1960s, the dances promote peace and integration within individuals and understanding and connection within groups worldwide. There are no performers nor audience: new arrivals and old hands form the circle as everyone sings and dances together.

I invite you to explore ways of adding dance, music, yoga or other movement into your worship. Bringing our whole body, our whole imagination, and our whole creativity to God honors the Creator and wakes us up to the life we are meant to have.

To learn more:

Yoga Mass: Embodying Christ Consciousness

The Cosmic Mass

Dances for Universal Peace

Others in the Parliament of World’s Religions series:

First Impressions
Bible Stories and Domestic Violence
Child Bride
Climate Change
Physical Meets Worship

 

Stories from the Parliament.
Climate Change.

Lynn Willis, LEAD’s Spiritual Guide, attended the 2018 Parliament of the World’s Religions in Toronto November 1-7. She will be sharing her experiences and reflections in a series of newsletter articles.

The ice in the heart of man has grown as the ice in the north has melted. Uncle Angaangaq Angakkorsuaq, Eskimo-Kalaatit Elder, the Arctic.

The reality of climate change is irrefutable, and each of us is responsible for making decisions and taking actions that will shape a future of well-being for humans and all life. The Climate Action Task Force of the Parliament is working to strengthen the growing global faith-based climate movement, bringing people of many traditions together in common commitment and effective actions.

Throughout the Parliament, I heard the warnings and impassioned pleas of people from all across the globe. I share them with you now. I hope your hearts and minds will be open to the wisdom of our brothers and sisters.

My 91-year-old Aunt said to tell you, “it’s too late.”
Uncle Angaangaq Angakkorsuaq

The countdown to Day Zero came to us in Cape Town, South Africa. The water to homes was cut off. People lined up to receive 20 liters of water per person. The climate has changed radically. Drought will be the new normal. Water is heavy. Once you have carried your own water, you will learn the value of every drop.

Cape Town is the canary in the mine. It’s a wake-up call.

Day Zero is coming for us all. This is the human rights issue of our day.
The Rev. Dr. Rachel Mash, Green Anglicans, South Africa

The stone age didn’t end because we ran out of stones. We found alternatives.

Climate change is moving faster than we thought. A tsunami of data requires a storm of response.

The power of love can overcome the love of power.

Faith based organizations have lots of resources – they need to take the lead! We must practice what we preach. As God called Noah to build an ark, we are called to build an ark now.
Karen Christiana Figueres Olsen, Executive Secretary of the UN Framework Convention on Climate Change and leading force of the 2015 Paris Agreement

Women have been the water keepers all over the world.

We have allowed our religions to be commoditized and commercialized.

The future requires repentance.
Vandana Shiva, India

The crisis has less to do with climate and more to do with us.

There is an ecumenical imperative to the climate crisis. We need a model of cooperation.
John Chryssavgis, Archdeacon of the Ecumenical Throne

God said to St. Francis, “go repair my house, which you see is falling into ruin. Creation is the first book of God. Care of the earth is our first vocation. The stewardship of the earthly garden is the first and primary task entrusted to Adam – the first human being, as we read in the creation narratives in Genesis. It is the very first commandment given to humanity.”
Joshtrom Isaac Kuteethadam, the Vatican

There is a midrash that tells of people sailing on a boat. Soon they notice that one person is drilling a hole under their chair. Of course, they object! “It’s my seat! I can do with it as I want!” is the reply. With that attitude, we will all die.
Rabbi David Rosen, American Jewish Committee

We talk with nature. We need to live.

White people need to learn to listen. White people only have concern for cities and minerals. We are the keepers of the forest. White people need to learn from us.
Davi Kopenawa, the Yanomami people of the Amazon

Others in the Parliament of World’s Religions series:

First Impressions
Bible Stories and Domestic Violence
Child Bride
Climate Change
Physical Meets Worship

Leading Change

by Pastor David Hansen, LEAD Director of Communication and Innovation

LEAD is committed to congregations and leaders who are ready for the future God is calling the church into – and for the transformation that will lead us there.


There is no denying it – we live in an era of change. Change in our culture, change in our neighborhoods, and change in our ministries.

Wherever we serve – whether a rural congregation, an urban campus ministry, a suburban redevelopment – we are leading change.

Many of LEAD’s resources are designed to help congregations and ministries walk through that change – to remember where they came from, while gaining a vision for what God is leading them toward. And as we do this work, we are finding that many leaders have not been trained or equipped for leading change.

Here are a few of the most helpful reminders we have found for those who are leading change.

1) Leading Change Requires Support

In ministry, it can sometimes feel like we are in this all by ourselves. Each pastor an island, doing their ministry separate from those down the street. But there is no Lone Ranger ministry in this era of change.

We have to relearn the habits of collegiality – reaching out to our neighbors of various denominations and traditions, sharing experiences, and learning from one another. As leaders, we also need to model the healthy practices of self-care: making use of our own counselors, spiritual directors, and mentors, so that we can bring our best selves to our ministry.

2) Leading Change Requires Growth

One of my favorite stories about LEAD comes from our very first year. LEAD’s Executive Director, Peggy Hahn, went on listening sessions across our region talking with pastors and lay leaders. Afterward, she shared that she could ask one question – just ONE – and get a good feel for the vitality of that ministry.

The question? “What are you reading?

That’s all. “What are you reading?” The answer didn’t matter. If the leader was reading ANYTHING – tending to their spiritual and intellectual growth – that was enough. In our ministry with LEAD, we have discovered that congregations that are growing have leaders who are growing.

3) Leading Change Requires Discomfort

Change isn’t easy. It requires us to admit that we could be doing things differently, that maybe there is a better way. Change can mean trying things we’ve never tried before, taking risks, and being vulnerable.

There is a certain amount of discomfort inherent in healthy change. Not too much – or it will all fall apart – but just enough. (In The Practice of Adaptive Leadership, Ronald Heifetz calls this “productive equilibrium.”)

This discomfort is not just for the congregation – it affects the leaders, too. And so, we return to our center and our strength. Prayer. Worship. Scripture. Riding the waves of changing ministry means we have to equip ourselves with the life vest of a full and healthy spiritual life.

Your gift (in any amount) will help us build a community of leaders with the resources and support they need to transform the church, especially leaders in crisis, new leaders in the church, and those who are leading congregational change.

Stories from the Parliament.
Bible Stories and Domestic Violence.

Lynn Willis, LEAD’s Spiritual Guide, attended the 2018 Parliament of the World’s Religions in Toronto November 1-7. She will be sharing her experiences and reflections in a series of newsletter articles.

“Words have power,” says Jan Peppler, who holds a Doctorate in Sacred Myth, “we must translate accurately.”

95% of church women have never heard a sermon about abuse.
And yet 83% of Pastors have counseled victims of abuse.

How can this be?

Religious women stay longer in abusive relationships because they identify with Bible stories. They turn to Job or to Jesus. “Suffering is my cross to bear. I must pick up my cross and suffer.”

And yet, if we look carefully, we see that Job teaches us to call out the abuser. God is not the abuser in that story. Jesus found a third way – not a victim, but not seeking revenge.

There are strong women in the Bible who need to be held up as role models.

Esther saved her family (which is, by the way, the number one reason that women finally leave – to protect their children).

To the outcast Samaritan woman Jesus says, “you are worthy, you are mine, go and tell the good news.”

Mary Magdalene was the first to be entrusted with the news of the resurrection.

The stories are there. They tell the truth about how God wants people to be treated. But tribal customs find “evidence” in sacred books.

We must, as Dr. Peppler says, translate accurately. And tell the truth. And tell the stories. Silence increases violence.

Even just changing the name given to the stories can change the message conveyed. How about changing “the Woman Caught in Adultery” to “Jesus Breaks up the Boys-Will-Be-Boys Club”? *

*While I heard this quote at the Parliament, I originally read it in this Patheos article by Bert Montgomery.

Others in the Parliament of World’s Religions series:

First Impressions
Bible Stories and Domestic Violence
Child Bride
Climate Change
Physical Meets Worship

 

Stories from the Parliament.
The Child Bride.

Lynn Willis, LEAD’s Spiritual Guide, attended the 2018 Parliament of the World’s Religions in Toronto November 1-7. She will be sharing her experiences and reflections in a series of newsletter articles.

Susan B. Anthony said, “the bicycle has done more to emancipate women than anything in the world.”

Armene Modi is from India. She is the founder of Ashta No Kai (“for a better tomorrow”). Ashta No Kai is dedicated to empowering rural women.

Ashta No Kai aims to make a difference in rural women’s lives by providing them with the education, vocational skills, and resources they need to become economically independent and self-reliant.

One of the things they do is provide access to bicycles for girls in India and Afghanistan so they can get to school.

One day a mother came to Professor Modi and said her 8-year-old daughter had been given as a child bride to a powerful 40-year-old man. Would she please help to get her back?

Mrs. Modi asked all the powerful men in the area for help and no one would dare aggravate this man. So Mrs. Modi contacted him herself. Many times she contacted him.

Finally, he came to her office – with 10 armed guards. Can you visualize this?

She said, “You paid a bag of rice for this girl, allow me to pay you 5 bags of rice to get her back.”

He stormed out saying that the law was on his side.

She persisted. She kept calling him. Three times he came back and refused. Finally, he said in exasperation, “Why do you care about this one girl so much?”.

Mrs. Modi said, “She should be on the playground with the other girls her age. That is her life.  Not this.” And he said, “Fine! Take her!”

About 15 million girls each year marry before they are 18.

Armene Modi is saving one child bride at a time. Making the world better.

The day after hearing this story I was at a Lutheran/Anglican worship service. The gospel lesson was Luke 18:1-8 (The Parable of the Persistent Widow.) 

Some truths never change.

Others in the Parliament of World’s Religions series:

First Impressions
Bible Stories and Domestic Violence
Child Bride
Climate Change
Physical Meets Worship

 

Thanksgiving Blessing 2018

Come to the table,

We are thankful for new faces and new smiles.

Come to the feast,

We are thankful for new foods and new ways.

Come to the conversation,

We are thankful to learn from your wisdom.

Come to peace,

We are thankful for the stories of the paths

you have walked.

We are thankful for you.

There is room, there is plenty.

When we welcome each other,

we welcome

God.

by Lynn Willis, LEAD Spiritual Guide

Parliament of the World’s Religions.
First Impressions.

Lynn Willis, LEAD’s Spiritual Guide, attended the 2018 Parliament of the World’s Religions in Toronto November 1-7. She will be sharing her experiences and reflections in a series of newsletter articles.

125 years in the making

10,000 people in attendance

220 faiths represented

1st city in the world for diversity (Toronto)

3 major topics – Indigenous People, The Dignity of Women, and Caring for Earth

You might be excused for thinking that when many religious people are gathered to speak about important and difficult subjects, they would be dour and officious and hard.

What I found, instead, was spontaneous dance. Enthusiastic singing. Hugs galore. And laughter everywhere.

This was a group of people who were the best representatives of their religious traditions.

The Sikh people of Toronto provided free blessed food (for all 10,000 people) every day for 7 days.

The Dances for Universal Peace people invited anyone to join the dance. Christians and Jews and Muslims and Hindus and Zoroastrians and Baha’i and Sikh all united in the dance.

And yes, there were the hard truths. The hard work. The hard realities.

Truth and reconciliation for Indigenous People who have been denied their songs and dances and cultures by colonializing nations.

A million missing women. Child brides.

An environmental crisis that calls for immediate action.

But what better place and what better people to bring the news that together we can make a difference.

A story was told of the whale who bragged about how big and powerful he was. All the birds swooped down and each took one drop of water until the whale was beached. Together we can make a big difference.

“At the conclusion of this Parliament, thousands of committed persons of faith and conscience will be further prepared to bring about the radical change that our world so desperately requires. That change, however, can only be actualized if people of faith and conscience dare to believe that a far-reaching commitment to inclusion has greater promise than inherited patterns of exclusion.

Others in the Parliament of World’s Religions series:

First Impressions
Bible Stories and Domestic Violence
Child Bride
Climate Change
Physical Meets Worship

The Power of Story

by Kristen Krueger, PhD – LEAD Consultant

When you support LEAD on Giving Tuesday and in your end-of-year giving, you help create and sustain the work of intentionally growing young leaders who are the very best of what our church has to offer.

I am a historian who specializes in the history of girlhood. I’ve studied young women and activism across the 20th century and am now raising two little girls of my own. Perhaps because of those things, people often ask me “how do we get young people to care about faith communities?” or “how do we teach young people to lead?” I believe the answer lies in the power of intentional storytelling.

Intentional storytelling is bigger than just sharing a personal experience. While that is a valuable tool, intentional storytelling has three key elements that shape young leaders.

  • First, the story must be shared authentically, including why this issue or cause matters personally and globally.
  • Second, the story should include an invitation to join in the work of the cause, alongside those who are already doing the work.
  • Third, the story must be passed on and made their own, giving leadership to young people.

By telling stories that matter, inviting young leaders into partnership, and finally moving from a leading role to a mentoring role, we can see a clear path to growing young leaders. History shows us that when we do these things well, young people emerge as leaders and world-changers.

If we can harness the power of intentional storytelling to shape the lives of young leaders, we will see the power of young people to change the world for good.  Join LEAD in growing young leaders!

ELCA Youth Gathering – intentional storytelling in practice

This summer 32,000 young people came to the city of Houston for the ELCA Youth Gathering. The students were invited to collect books to donate to local literacy campaigns. They arrived with piles of books ready to share with Houston’s children and engaged in an intentional storytelling project shaped by LEAD staff, using proven models from 25 years of experience with Camp Hope.

  • First, they heard the authentic story about why literacy matters. They heard from the partners who would receive the books, including LEAD partner Pastor Deb Grant whose church’s community library was destroyed in Hurricane Harvey.
  • Next, they took action, packing the books into boxes, sending the books into the city, and hosting free book fairs. In total over 40,000 books made their way into the homes of Houston’s children in the span of three days.
  • The last step was for the students to learn about advocacy and how they can support literacy campaigns in their own cities. Through the power of intentional story telling we watched the student leaders who served in Houston adopt justice issues as their own.

Perhaps the hardest part of intentional storytelling is the idea that we need to step back and let young leaders make the movement their own. I want to be very clear that I do not mean that experience and wisdom should step out of the movement. That would be a significant loss.

Instead, I believe in striking a delicate balance of supporting young leaders without taking over their work. This work means walking alongside them, sharing, mentoring, supporting, and continuing to invite new people in to the story we are writing together. This is where the work of LEAD is so important.

In creating resources, coaching congregational leaders, and building programs like Camp Hope Ministries, LEAD helps churches accompany young leaders as they practice intentional storytelling together.

Historians aren’t supposed to comment on the present or the future—it’s not our area of expertise after all. But I believe we are living in a moment of great change.

 

Gravity vs Grounded

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Join Peggy for a phone call meet-up on Tuesday, November 13 from 8-9 AM CST (details below).

Let’s talk. Are you acting in response to the pull of gravity or the pull to be grounded?

The gravitational pull that is keeping us stuck is not as strong as you think it is. In fact, gravity is the weakest of the four fundamental forces of physics.

Yet our risk-adverse culture (which is at least partially a function of our change-manic world) can leave us feeling like there are no good options…only Hopelessness. Depression. Anxiety.

Grounding, on the other hand, drives us to ask questions. There is even a scientific theory about this. By digging into what holds us, we can discover new angles of vision to apply to old problems. This adaptive learner approach sets us free from gravity. We can begin to jump and play, to feel joy and liberation for a God-filled future.

If you are feeling stuck, think about working with a professional Coach or joining a Cohort with others who are working similar challenges. Being alone or feeling isolated can be the start of a downward spiral. One step forward is to phone a friend. Another is to get connected to other leaders who are bringing innovative questions to the conversation. As the holidays approach, we can take a mental leap towards next year by grounding ourselves.

Join Peggy for a phone call meet-up on Tuesday, November 13 from 8-9 AM CST. Bring your questions. By asking each other about our strategic urgencies, new paths forward may be discovered.

Call 515-739-1033, pin 599325* The call starts at 8 AM and ends promptly at 9 AM (CST). No cost.

A peek behind the curtain:
Digital tools we use every day at LEAD

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

You see our Front of the House every day. It’s things like our website, this newsletter, our Facebook page and all the people you meet who talk to you about LEAD (from our team to our partners to our clients). Our front door is always open and you know how to find it.

The Back of the House is different. Until now, we haven’t revealed the systems and tools we use, mostly because we are constantly refining them ourselves. Even as we’re sending this out, we are evaluating things in the Back of the House and making decisions about whether to pivot and try something new or persevere with what we have.

It takes a lot of hard work to keep LEAD running, something I know you all can relate to. As a learning organization, this is a two-way street; we’ll share what’s working for us and we hope you’ll do the same.

So…let’s take a peek behind the curtain.

LEAD’s Back of the House:

For Internal Communication, we use Slack. Here’s why.

We realized an average of 30% of our email traffic jam was caused by our own decentralized team. Slack, a free cloud-based service with upgraded plans available, helps us:

  • organize our conversations
  • get faster answers (more like texting than like email)
  • build deeper relationships
  • know how to pray for each other in real time

External Communication:

This is more complicated because HOW we communicate depends on WHO we are communicating with and WHAT their needs are. Here are our best tips.

Website (Worship Times is our partner for the LEAD website):

  • For us, the website is both the front door (for guests and those who are just getting to know us) and the back door (for those who already know and trust us and value our resources). The goal is to think about what each of these groups need and make it easy for them to find it.
  • How do you know if it’s working? Ask! But don’t just ask your regular attenders (or in our case, our “frequent flyers” who eagerly await our latest and greatest program, resource, or blogpost). Ask new people and visitors too. These are the ones you may have to work harder to reach and, because they don’t already know you and love you, they may not be willing to give you a second or third chance to get it right.

For more website tips, check out these Tips for Your Church Website.

Email:

  • We do our best to be responsive. At LEAD, we promise a 48-hour turnaround and strive for a response within 24 hours to our clients’ requests. Sometimes we have to delay while we gather more information, but even then, we’ll reply with a quick note saying “we will be in touch as soon as possible.”
  • On the flip side, we do not feel obligated to answer emails after 6 PM or on weekends unless we have extra personal time. We feel it is healthy to set work aside for Sabbath time.
  • Watch for themes in the questions that come in. If you are getting the same questions over and over, take another look at the information you are providing. Is the message unclear or incomplete? If so, fix it (change the source of the problem) AND get back to those who may have been impacted, even those who didn’t bother to contact you.
  • We do not blind copy (BCC) anyone. We want to be transparent about who we are keeping “in the loop.”
  • Figure out a plan for filing emails, AND USE IT!

Phone:

  • Never underestimate the power of a phone call. There are many instances where picking up the phone can save both time and misunderstandings. Then follow up with a short email to document what was discussed. It can be as simple as “Thank you for the conversation where we agreed to move forward with xxx.”
  • We would never record a phone call without permission.

Digital meetings:

  • Online meetings are essential to our work. We couldn’t support our clients and our staff (who are spread all across the country and beyond) without this technology.
  • We’ve tried a number of different services and our favorite is Zoom. It uses less bandwidth and is less intimidating for people who are new to digital meetings, all they have to do is click on a link.
    • Zoom allows us to see each other, share a screen, show a PowerPoint, or write together. It’s wonderful.
    • We will occasionally record a Zoom meeting but we’ll always ask before doing it. This allows people who were unable to be part of the original meeting to watch the video or listen to the audio, at their own convenience.

Organization: Drop Box and Smartsheet

Dropbox:

  • Shared files are a lifesaver. We store our work in Dropbox which gives us access on all our different devices (computer, Smartphone, tablet, etc.) AND among the team. Not everyone on the team needs access to everything, and in fact it could easily get overwhelming, so we are intentional about who gets invited into which folders.
  • A byproduct of selective sharing means that many on our team can use the free version, but even paying $99 for a team member’s annual subscription is a steal.
  • We have a few rules for using Dropbox so we don’t drive each other crazy.
    • #1 When you open a file and plan to work in it, FIRST resave it with your initials so that the last person’s document remains intact. That file can (and should) be deleted later or saved in an Old or Archive folder.
    • Make file names as short as possible.
    • Begin the most important folder / file names with a number so they are in the same order in everyone’s directory.

Smartsheet:

  • Think of Excel on steroids. This project management software interfaces with many of the other tools we use, like Dropbox and Slack. We use it to plot out our work step by step, set up calendar alerts so we don’t miss deadlines, and check progress anytime without constantly having to ask others for updates. And that’s just a tiny piece of its awesomeness!

With all of these tools, we should be AMAZING!!!! However, as humans trying to manage families, friends, our personal wellbeing, and the big work we are called to, we occasionally lose our way. When that happens, we rely on God’s grace and your forgiveness.

What tools do you use? Let’s learn together.

Vote

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director, and Kristen Krueger, PhD, LEAD Consultant

I stood in line for two hours to vote today as early voting opened. The very act of voting is one way to advocate for your faith as we stand in solidarity with those who have fought for this right. The trajectory of democracy in our country is towards inclusivity.

From the founding to today, the United States has walked a steady, sometimes messy, path to include more and more voices in the decision-making systems of our nation.

When the country was founded, only wealthy white men could vote. In order to cast a ballot, you had to be white and be able to own land.

Soon, the right to vote was granted to all white men.

With the passage of the 15th Amendment, African American men won the right to vote after the Civil War ended slavery in America.

In 1920, the 19th Amendment gave women the right to vote.

Most recently, during the Vietnam War, the voting age was lowered from 21 to 18 in response to criticism from young veterans.

Every step toward expanding the vote came out of hard-fought battles and was met with attempts to recreate restrictions. This included literacy tests, voter ID laws, and the “grandfather clause.” Even so, the arc of history in the United States has been one of expanding, not limiting, liberty.

By including more voices, the Unites States becomes a truer reflection of our population and steps closer to realizing the democracy of our founders. Voting gives faithful people an opportunity to advocate for the “least of these.”

Use this interactive tool by the League of Women Voters to prepare to vote: vote411.org. As a leader in this country, lift your voice and encourage the people in your life to join you in voting. I believe we have a responsibility to contribute and I urge you to do the same.

It took nearly 100 years for women to gain the right to vote in this country (the movement started in 1848 and continued until 1920).

This is our watch and it is our turn to show up.

A New Voice for Grandparents

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD-Executive Director

I don’t know what is more beautiful – holding your new grandbaby or watching your children become parents. The sweetness of a new little life and the over-tired commitment of young parents in love with their baby are some of the best things life has to offer. With new parents able to get answers to their questions 24/7, what role does the grandparent play? We’re no longer the go-to experts for the practical, everyday concerns that we turned to our parents for. Instead, they connect to experts and peers to get answers in seconds.

But maybe by getting out of these routine conversations, it opens up a new space that no other generation of grandparents has ever enjoyed. Maybe by letting others address burping techniques, we have an opportunity to accompany our children in significant areas of life that grandparents are uniquely positioned to tend. These three overlapping circles of life that make up our family core values include:

  1. The circle of core beliefs. What is most important in our life? It’s been said that we can tell what matters to a person by looking at his or her calendar and checkbook. While I can see the truth in this, I hope that I’m living a life where my beliefs are more public than that. Research proves that our children turn out a lot more like us than we think they will, so we can actually look at our adult children to see what they caught from us. We can make adjustments in our current lives if we wish they had learned a different life-lesson by watching us. It’s never too late to clarify our own beliefs and reflect them out in our families and the world.
  2. The circle of family convictions. What do we stand for as a family? At the end of the day, there are a few things I pray my children know we value highly. Things like showing up when we need each other, trusting each other to tell the truth even when it’s hard to hear, thinking critically together about pretty much anything but especially about the intersection between faith and values, etc. We are famous for cooking together then sitting around the dinner table solving the world’s problems. What do your adult children know about your convictions?
  3. The circle of faith practices. How do we practice our faith as a family? I’m pretty sure our children don’t all pray before every meal but they definitely know how because we’ve practiced this their whole lives. And as our family grows, we continue to add new practices like the annual Christmas Letter I write to the grandchildren or the journal we just started for our youngest grandson who lives across the country. No doubt there will be more. As life evolves, our faith practices must too.

All this calls us to articulate our own values in new and different ways. The good news is that I don’t have to do this alone. Some of my best thinking partners are my peers in a Bible study group as we wrestle together with how to follow Jesus.

I don’t know about you, but if I have to choose between passing on family values or giving advice on diaper rash, I say, “Thank you, Internet!”

Giving that grows Community

Join us in changing the church! We need each other to make it happen.

LEAD is growing leaders like you in churches like yours who are called as disciples into God’s mission…and a new vision is emerging.

The vision is twofold: build a community of creative and courageous leaders all around the world who are learning together and develop a digital resource center filled with resources to support, challenge, and encourage leaders as they work together to transform the church. We need your financial support to achieve these goals.

We are looking for 100 courageous leaders to step up and make a gift of $25 per month to LEAD to make the vision a reality.

Your gift (in any amount) will help us build a community of leaders with the resources and support they need to transform the church, especially leaders in crisis, new leaders in the church, and those who are leading congregational change.

Hear from leaders who are already on this journey of transformation in their congregations and communities:

 

Imagine taking the passion and enthusiasm of these leaders in just one small part of the country and multiplying it by ten, or a hundred, or a thousand. Imagine it expanding from coast to coast, from country to country, all around the world.

THAT’s how you create a movement! And it takes YOU…everyone one of you…to make this change happen.

We have developed strong partnerships with leaders across the country in our first 5 years and together we are faithfully transforming ourselves and our church. This is just the beginning of what we can do together.

Catch the vision! Transform the church! Give now.

What is Church Growth?

by Pastor David Hansen, Director for Innovation and Communication – LEAD
Originally published at digitalpastor.org

What is Church Growth?

As we enter into – or begin to acknowledge – a new era in the life of the church, words like growing church get tossed around by church leaders. Or maybe you hear about congregational vitality, or congregational health. They are all related, and all often equally undefined.

Between my work as a redevelopment (restart/renewal) pastor and as a consultant with LEAD, I have thought a good deal about the idea of growth in the context of congregational life.

Growth is Contextual

Whatever the standard is for your metrics, context is king.

If you live in a rural area or a small town where perhaps the overall population is decreasing at a rate of 2% a year, it is a great achievement if your worship attendance holds even from one year to another. Similarly, if you live is a suburban setting where there is high population turnover and the overall population is increasing by 10% a year, it is probably not a healthy sign if your worship attendance is holding even.

This standard – taking into account the local factors – is extremely important when talking about any indicators of growth. What is the job market like, and the median income? What are the schedule pressures like on families? What is the age of the surrounding population? All of these contextual questions and more must be considered when looking at growth in the church.

Growth is Holistic

Worship attendance is a helpful number to look at – but it is by no means the only number!

LEAD has been doing some great work around helping congregations figure out metrics that help to measure ministry in ways that make sense with their values.

Talking about growth has to take a holistic approach. Are we growing in numbers, discipleship, outreach, generosity, and relationship? They all work together.

Too often in the church we zero in on one of those sorts of measures over against the others. A healthy approach to growth looks at them all together – and the interplay between them. Some examples of this might be things like the percentage of members in worship each week, or the number of people involved in small groups, or the number of service hours spent in the community each week.

When we only consider one or two of these factors, we are only getting part of the picture. I have even watched as leaders lift one part of the picture, to distract from problems in other areas.

A healthy, growing church is honest and looks at all these factors together.

Growth is Consistent

There are definitely seasons for everything (turn, turn, turn). But a church that is growing will experience some consistency in its growth.

Perhaps one year the congregation grows a little deeper in faith, and the next year they grow a little larger in worship, and the following year they grow in their service to others. That is one advantage of taking a holistic approach to growth – it helps us to see the whole picture.

There is a tendency to focus on the short term. What does worship attendance look like this month – or even this year? But it is often helpful to zoom out and look at the longer trends. Over the last five years – are we experiencing a trend of more or less people in small groups?

It is important for us to talk about church growth – about God who calls us to thrive in the context in which we have been planted. To be sure, there are faithful ministries that are not growing – for contextual reasons they are in a different season of their congregational life. But most of us in ministry are called by God to lead our communities through growth. Growth that is contextual, holistic, and consistent.

In Ephesians, Paul says that we have been equipped for the work of building up the body of Christ. Let’s get to work.

Read more about LEAD’s resource “Faithful Metrics” – which is a great resource of establishing contextual, holistic metrics in your setting. 

Have a look at my thoughts on the renewal ministry to which we are all called.

On a Quest: Listening to God

Serving 78 Congregations on The LEAD Journey, LEAD is still on a quest to listen to God.

6 years in, here are 6 things LEAD is learning from you:

  1. RISK

Everything starts with people who are willing to take a risk. Leadership means sticking your neck out. Literally sticking your neck outside of your comfort zone even when you know there’s potential for failure.

  1. MINDSET

Growing a new mindset is like peeling an onion. One stinky layer at a time.

  1. GENEROSITY

Admitting that others definitely know more than you do about some things makes space for learning. Generosity is more than giving, it is also receiving.

  1. VISION

Expecting more than you or anyone else thinks is possible, practical or popular is what it means to be visionary.

  1. BEHAVIOR

Listening, Centering, Exploring, and Connecting are still vital behaviors for personal and congregational growth. No exceptions.

  1. TIME

Teams of leaders + intentional process + new mindset + new wisdom + new skills + three years = transforming congregations. YES, 3 YEARS. THREE. YEARS. As a great start.

“I thought, 3 YEARS? ARE YOU KIDDING? Now I’m thinking, will that be long enough?” Pastor Sara Yotter, Joy Reigns Lutheran Church, Edgewater, Maryland.

LEAD has the privilege of learning how to be the church as we usher in a new era. If you or your congregation want to join us, email lead@waytolead.org or you can learn more here.

Leading the church together beats independence any day of the week. We are pilgrims on a long journey who need each other.

Advent Intentionally: LEAD’s 2018 Advent Resources


I intend to spend this Advent day with all the curiosity, generosity, and hope that God gave me.
I intend to spend this day with God.
I intend to share my joy.

Welcome to LEAD’s 2018 Advent Resources – Advent Intentionally

Each year during Advent and Lent, LEAD provides FREE print-ready contemplative liturgies, with readings from the Revised Common Lectionary, that can be used by congregations, small groups, or individuals for worship or personal reflection.

Daily intentions have been added to the resources this year. Each day’s reflection provides a suggested focus, Bible verse and suggestions for sharing the experience. The intentions are included in the weekly bulletins or they can be used on their own. You can even sign up to receive the daily intention by email. Learn more about the Daily Intentions.

Designed for all ages, the resources and spiritual practices have been used in a wide variety of settings in more than 14 different countries.

Everything provided is FREE and may be used exactly as presented or customized for your own context.

This year, let us strive to live proactively and as simply as possible through Advent. Let us start each day with the intention of finding something good in our lives. Let us see God in God’s creation and in God’s people.

When Caring Is Killing Us

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

At my doctor’s appointment this week, I notice my doctor looks worse than I do.

Doc: How are you?

Me: Exhausted. How are you?

Doc: Exhausted.

We give each other a knowing smile. But is that ok? Living exhausted will kill you. So, I push her, as she looks up my chart on the computer.

Me: So, what’s going on with you?

Doc: I haven’t had a vacation yet this year. I realized I have 3 hours a day where I am not working and that is just enough time to work out, shower, eat and wash a load of clothes. I love my job but this is not sustainable.

Me: What can you do about this?

Doc: I’m working on it.

Me: Me too. I’ve been focusing on how to work smarter. A big key for me is sharing the work and the responsibility for the workwith my very capable team.

If you are exhausted too, do yourself a favor right now and keep reading.

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The practice of adaptive leadership* requires us to go up to the balcony. We need to drag ourselves up the stairs to look over our own lives, then take concrete steps to DO something.

Here are the next steps I’m making space for in my own life:

  • Confidants: (beyond your partner/spouse): get a coach, spiritual guide, therapist, peer group to talk with outside the people you work with every day. Do this now.
  • Sanctuaries: make time in your life to create, exercise, garden, read, worship, pray, study… whatever it is that renews your soul. Get disciplined about this. Do this tomorrow.
  • Learn: get a continuing ed plan cooking. What do you want to learn? Get out of the conference world and into more transformative learning. Go on a pilgrimage by digging deeply into something you love. It doesn’t have to be church related. Do this as often as you can.
  • Gratitude: practice optimism and realism with a grateful heart. Hold these together no matter what. Do this every day.

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My doctor is amazing. That is her problem. She is really good at her job and the job is exponentially growing. Exhaustion from answering your call is still exhaustion.

As my friend and partner in ministry, Bishop Mike Rinehart, always says, “when you are burning the candle at both ends, ask yourself who’s holding the match?”

Compassion fatigue is real, and it is not just related to natural disasters. It is part of the lives of people who serve others 24-7. We need a personal compassion plan to love ourselves too.

*The Practice of Adaptive Leadership by Ronald A. Heifetz, Marty Linsky and Alexander Grashow

Smelly Church

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

What is that smell?

Walking into churches across the country, I am struck by three things:

  • hospitality of the people
  • hospitality of the building
  • hospitality of the experience

Oddly enough, all three are impacted by what I can only call: The Church Smell.

You are probably used to or may even like the smell of your church. Most people don’t realize how the smell of their own home gives them the “I belong here” feeling. It’s that feeling that can make us immune to the smell of places we love, like our church buildings.

This is not true if you are new to the place. Smells hit me like a shock wave when I enter these sacred spaces.

Friends, the smells in our church are often, well, let me just say it: stinky.

But the good news is that we can detox our churches. Let’s not wait; I say act now and act fast!

Do the Sniff Test:

  1. Ask 5 people of different ages who have never been in your church before how it smells.
  • Like nothing at all
  • Like a place you can relax and want to stay
  • Like yesterday’s meal
  • Like mold and way overdue for deep cleaning
  • Like you just want to leave

Do this test in the sanctuary, fellowship hall and education spaces.

  1. Talk about smells: Ask them what they expected the buildings to smell like, what they wish they smelled like and what bothered them the most.
  2. Take care of business. Make a detox plan to rid your building of stink. Is it the carpet? The ancient banners? The pews (no pun intended)? Or is it something harder to manage like mold or rot?

You may be smiling right now, as I am while writing this, but that is only because we both know…

This is true. And it matters.

It’s Fall! What can we learn from school?

by Erin Storm, with Sanctuary (formerly Houston Lutheran Campus Ministry)

In my work in campus ministry, I discovered that LEAD and campus ministry are partners in mission, working in different realms, yet anchored by similar practices and goal. And guess what? You are too! Let me show you what I mean.

On campus we are called to tune into the ever-shifting community formed there. We ask, “How do we extend Christ’s love and grace to this often-forgotten corner of our greater church community?”

Have you ever considered that your community is “ever-shifting” too?

We look with intention at the pressures and stresses of the college years and engage in these communities purposefully, in an effort to be Christ’s life and light on campus.  For some, this might mean reaching out to students, who feel that their identity is completely connected to worldly success or perfect grades, in care and conversation; for others it may be helping students to find flexible work, or adequate housing. And often, for many students, the act of engaging a minister in an open and non-judgmental way is healing in itself, as many students have distanced themselves from their faith after negative personal experiences of church.

What does this look like in your congregation?

Within our communities on campus, we are constantly digging down beneath the surface to ask hard, complex, and vulnerable questions. In my experience with Houston Lutheran Campus Ministry, my heart is so often filled by how engaged and open-minded our students are. They are ready to dig deep, if we create the trust and space to allow the work of the Holy Spirit to happen.

Where is this happening in your congregation?

And finally, we are all constantly working out-side of our comfort zone to reflect the diversity of God’s creation.

A quick look at the demographic information from the 2017 Annual Campus Ministry Report reveals how ELCA campus ministries are doing this vital work of extending God’s message of welcome to those who are yearning. Here are just a few highlights:

  • Ethnic and Racial Background: 96% of the campus ministry sites reported working with white/Caucasian students, 60% of the sites reported working with African-American students, 41% with Hispanic/Latinos, 38% with Asian/Pacific Islanders, 24% with Middle Eastern/Arab-Americans, and 12% with American Indian or Native Alaskan students.  These findings indicate a significant increase in the number of campus ministry sites working with student populations other than white/Caucasian.
  • Religious Background: Almost all of the campus ministry sites (90%) reported working with Lutheran students, 82% with non-Lutheran Protestants, 55% with Roman Catholics, 29% with Muslims, and 20% with Jewish students. These percentages indicate a significant increase in the number of campus ministry sites serving students from other Christian denominations and from non-Christian faith traditions. Over 70% of the Lutheran Campus Ministry (LCM) sites reported working with students who have no religious affiliation, “Nones.”
  • Sexual Orientation: Over three-quarters of the sites (78%) reported working with students who identify as gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender. This represents an increase over previous years.
  • Disability: About one-third (34%) of the Lutheran Campus Ministry sites reported working with disabled/differently-abled students, which also represents an increase over previous years.

What do these demographics look like for your own congregation?

And finally, what ideas from campus ministry might you use to extend God’s message of welcome to those who are yearning in your own neighborhood?

I urge everyone to find your local campus ministry representatives and show them your support. If your congregation doesn’t support a campus ministry, build that connection. The college years are vital to developing mature faithful leaders for the church today and in the future.

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Check out these LEAD resources to help your congregation:

Tune In to your neighborhood and the world

Wake Up to God’s mission

Dig Down into theology, staffing, governance and generosity

Work Out to expand relationships beyond your comfort zone

Alarming Faith

by Pastor David Hansen, Director for Innovation and Communication – LEAD
Originally published at digitalpastor.org

“How can I grow in faith?” 

This is one of the key questions that pastors often help people to answer.

How to grow deeper in relationship with God – how to have a faith that transforms our lives and makes a difference in the world.

Sometimes the answers are big: connecting with a church, developing a routine of worship attendance, finding a spiritual mentor to guide us.

Sometimes the answers are external: read this book, or use that journal, or participate in this program.

My experience has been that people feel overwhelmed by it all. The distance between where they are (what feels like not much faith) and where they want to be (life-changing faith) feels like it is insurmountable. The commitment, the time, the effort to get from point A to point B just seems like it can’t be reached.

But what if I could suggest an easy, attainable way to grow your faith – no matter where you are starting from?

Being Alarmed

The answer is in most of our purses and pockets – that handy connection to the world that most of us carry with us wherever we go.

Your phone.

You can use your phone to grow in faith, without any special apps, tools, or difficult processes.

Take out your phone, and set an alarm – sometime in the middle of the day. Set it to go off every day. And when that alarm goes off – whatever else you are doing – stop and pray.

Set another alarm – sometime toward the end of the day. Again, make sure it goes off every day. And when that alarm goes off, stop and think about what gave you joy – what you are grateful for that day.

It is as simple as that. Take time each and every day to pause and pray, and another moment each day to pause and give thanks. 

A couple important notes:

  • Don’t give up if you have to skip a day! Just start again tomorrow.
  • Not sure what to pray? Use the Lord’s Prayer, or borrow a prayer book from a church
  • Feel weird about it? Ask a friend, coworker, or family member to set an alarm for the same time, and you will always know that you aren’t alone

Is It Really That Easy?

The short answer? Yes!

Taking time each day to pray and to give thanks is a life-changing practice, and something as simple as an alarm to remind us to do those things can be the perfect encouragement to start this new habit.

So, go ahead. Pull out your phone and set an alarm.

Take a step toward a deeper faith.

Hurricane Harvey: Reflections

by Rozella Haydée White, LEAD Consultant

Disasters. Whether they are personal disasters or natural disasters, we all experience them. Personal disasters can include the death of a loved one, the end of a marriage, the diagnosis of an illnessor the loss of a job. Natural disasters may be floods, hurricanes, fires, earthquakes, or more, and they are becoming more common as our climate changes and population increases. Anything that rocks our world, negatively impacts our resources, and has the power to influence how we think about ourselves and others could be counted as a disaster.

I have experienced a series of personal disasters in my life. Each of these disasters literally took my breath away. I fell into a downward spiral that had me question everything I thought I knew.

When we are in the midst of a disaster, it’s all we can do to get through each moment of each day. Adrenaline pumps through our bodies as we figure out the next step to take. It never ceases to amaze me that the world keeps spinning as our world falls apart in the midst of the disaster.

Last year, I, along with my fellow Houstonians, experienced the natural disaster of Hurricane Harvey. This event had a huge impact on our city and on the people who call Houston home. Harvey uncovered the underbelly of our life together, revealing how poor city planning led to major flooding especially in areas that should have remained open land but had been built upon instead.

We discovered the number of people living in poverty without a safety net; they did not have rental insurance or monetary resources to make up for their time away from work. We learned how complicated government assistance is and experienced struggles with agencies that were supposed to be supportive during these times, but were overwhelmed by the need.

In the midst of the disaster, people supported one another and provided resources to help make life easier. That got many of us through the initial aftermath.

It wasn’t until six months after the Hurricane, which totaled my car while I was away from the city, that I realized I was still impacted by the disaster and experienced what could only be described as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Every time a storm would form in the city, I would wonder if the rain would flood the city again. The stress of the first couple of months post disaster caught up with me around January. I had a hard time sleeping and my anxiety would spike unexplainably. One year later, as we live into hurricane season, I still make sure that I leave my car on higher ground when I travel.

Over the years, I have learned the importance of reflection following a disaster. Once the adrenaline dissipates, it is important for us to feel all the feels; to drop into our bodies and take stock of the recent happenings. We have to do the hard work of reflecting on how the event impacted us, what meaning it does or doesn’t hold, and to be gracious with ourselves as we take time to heal after such an earth-shattering event.

This is where our communities of faith and support come in. We have the opportunity to create spaces for processing and healing in the aftermath of any disaster that shakes our individual and communal lives. Communities of faith can come together, not just in the aftermath to provide charitable acts, but as life continues. Communities of faith can be healing centers and invite those impacted by the disaster to process their feelings and connect with one another.

After Harvey, LEAD recognized the need for communal healing. We knew that for our leaders to support those they led, they too would need to be supported in the midst of the disaster. LEAD created the Courageous Community as a resource for leaders and communities experiencing disaster. The Courageous Community offered monetary resources for leaders to use for personal expenses, weekly prayer calls, a respite retreat, and resiliency coaching. This endeavor led us to recognize that this type of communal support shouldn’t just be provided in the aftermath of a disaster but should be a way of life for leaders so that they can experience optimal health and support.

This is what LEAD is about – we are an adaptive leadership organization focused on empowering Christian leaders and transforming faith communities. We want to influence the world and for us that means living out a deep, bold consequential faith in Jesus. No matter the disaster, we know that this deep, bold consequential faith, empowered leaders, and transformed faith communities will not only survive, but thrive.

Christian Leadership-Always a Holy Experiment

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Just try something new.

What if we stopped asking “What is the worst that could happen?” and started asking “What amazing thing might happen?”

This is the leadership mindset* that opens us up to God moving through us and our world. Imagine the possibilities if we started experimenting our way into the future!

It may be surprising, but this adaptive work is not new. In fact, the term “Holy Experiment” originated with William Penn in 1681.

Imagine this:

Penn thought everything would be possible in the New World, unlike in the England of his time, with The Holy Experiment in Pennsylvania.

Friends, we are in a new world. What if Penn is right? What if he was prophetic and the time is now? What if everything IS possible?

First, a brief history lesson…

According to The Holy Experiment, in Pennsylvania, Penn established the city of Philadelphia with aspirations that still have merit today:

  • Fair treatment for Native Americans
  • No military
  • A new approach to governance
  • Freedom of religion
  • An enlightened penal code where prison was to reform, not only to punish
  • Work for everyone
  • Education for everyone, girls and boys
  • A widened franchise where all men could vote [unfortunately, women were not yet included]
  • Town planning for healthy living with wide public squares and parks

And now…

What are our aspirations that could turn into Holy Experiments? Whose permission do you need to try stuff? What if you start small and just do it?

If you are not sure where to start, remember Penn and start with love.

*For more about leadership mindset and moving from a judger to a learner mindset, I highly recommend Change your Questions, Change Your Life, by Marilee Adams. It’s a very accessible book that will change the way you listen and ask questions not just at work, but in your everyday life as well.

Walking a labyrinth: a visit to the grocery store

Excerpt from Work Out Guide,
by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

This is an invitation to be mindful; to experience something familiar in a new way.

How many times do you think about your grocery store as a labyrinth?

I don’t mean “a complicated, irregular network of passages or paths in which it is difficult to find one’s waylabyrinth that frustrates you on a typical weekend.

I mean a labyrinth that welcomes you, as a spiritual pilgrim, into a walking prayer.

On your next trip to the grocery store, consider setting aside your list for a moment and…

Think of the grocery store or another public space as a labyrinth…

Before you get focused on your own needs and wants, walk up and down every aisle or around the space two times. (Trust the process. You won’t look weird; in fact, most people will not even notice. With the exception of the children, they are all inwardly focused.)

On your first trip around, pay attention to your personal way of being. Take deep, slow, breaths as you walk with an awareness of your posture, feel the tension in your own body and quiet the thoughts going through your mind.

When you have walked around the space and have returned to your starting place, pause to feel God’s love for you. You might do this by noticing the vast array of fruits and vegetables provided for your nourishment or by reflecting on your own gratitude for access to food.

On your second trip, look at the faces of those you see. Greet people, if you feel called to do so. Pray for those you feel prompted to pray for. Wonder about their lives. Become acutely aware of the diversity of gender, sexuality, age, ethnicity, culture, etc. Know that each person you see is made in God’s image.

Now, do your regular activity with a renewed connection to this sacred space.

If you found this experience meaningful, you may also want to check out A Summer of Intentions, 20 free daily intentions for spending time with God.

Camp Hope-the Power of Leading

If youth aren’t leading, they’re leaving. -Lyle Griner, National Peer Ministry Director

People often ask “how can we keep youth in the church” and the answer is simple: invite them into leadership and support them along the journey. When people know they are indispensable, they stick around. They use their gifts. This is true for people of all ages.

In almost thirty years of programming, Camp Hope Ministries is one of the best ways to grow student leaders, connect churches to their communities, and pass faith on to families. Camp Hope achieves this by creating a culture of youth-led, adult-mentored ministry.

As Aaron West of the Houston Chronicle writes:

Anyone walking into Holy Comforter Lutheran Church in Kingwood over the next few weeks probably wouldn’t be blamed for wondering where all the adults are. When eight teenagers have been hired to lead more than 40 elementary and middle school kids in a series of Bible lessons, drama activities and crafts, it’s a question that might come up. Read full article.

In this video from “Faith Camp” (the name for Camp Hope at Faith Lutheran in Bellaire, Texas, which is currently in its 23rdseason), it’s easy to see why former campers and staff are bringing their children to camp, some even spending the week with their grandparents or other family so they can attend!

Camp Hope offers a Spanish version, Sembrando Esperanza,with congregations all across the US and in El Salvador participating.

Now is the time to begin making plans for next summer. Is God calling you to grow young leaders and reach out to your congregation and your neighborhood through Camp Hope? Your congregation can host this camp on your own or in partnership with other organizations or faith communities.

To learn more about Camp Hope, visit Camp Hope Ministries’ website or you may also email your questions to lead@waytolead.org.

Throw Away Your Mission Statement

Originally published at digitalpastor.org

by Pastor David L Hansen, Director of Communication and Innovation – LEAD

Every church I know of has a mission statement. Your church probably has a mission statement. And the first thing I think you need to do with that mission statement is throw it away.

Out of Date

Often mission statements are out of date in congregation. They were written 10 years ago or 15 years ago for a church that no longer exists.

Maybe once upon a time, this mission statement was great for the congregation. But since then, it has become embedded in the culture of the congregation. And we all know how much institutions love change.

So, even as the congregation has changed, or the neighborhood around the congregation has changed, its mission has not.

Throw away your old mission statement.

Uninspiring

Usually, a committee is in charge of writing a mission statement. And those missions sound like they are written by committee. The number of people who get excited by things written by committees is exceptionally small.

Mission statements written by committee more often than not have no passion in them, no excitement in them. They are bland. And nobody is getting excited about your bland mission statement. Throw it away.

Non-Specific

God set your church in a unique neighborhood. Your congregation has specific gifts – gifts that only your congregation brings to your unique setting.

Your mission statement however is not unique. Chances are I could take your mission statement and use it at any other church in this country by just changing the name of the church.

We should not be able to take a mission statement from large suburban Minneapolis congregation, and use it at a small rural Colorado congregation – but far too often we can.

Your church deserves a mission as unique as the gift that God gave you, not a bland one size fits all universal mission statement.

Throw it away.

Mission That Changes Lives

Your congregation is in a specific location, with unique gifts given by God. You need a mission that inspires passion about the unique role you play in the Kingdom of God.

If the problem is deeper – you don’t know your neighborhood, or you can’t think of the unique gifts of your church – that is a big conversation that you need to have.

Get started by throwing away your out of date, uninspiring, and non-specific mission statement. Then get to work naming the exciting and unique work God has called you to in your neighborhood.

I highly recommend the resources of LEAD. Tune In” can help you to reconnect with your neighborhood, while “Wake Up” is designed to help identify the unique values and purpose of your congregation

How do you measure what matters?

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Many (most) congregations choose to count people in pews and bucks in the offering plate every week, but there are at least two big problems with these metrics:

  1. They don’t really tell you anything about how you are growing disciples and raising up Christian leaders.
  2. By the time you have the numbers, it’s too late to change them (that’s why these types of measure are called lag metrics).

As part of LEAD’s research for our newest book, Faithful Metrics, we interviewed a group of pastors younger than 40 to get their thoughts on relational metrics. Check out their creative and insightful responses as starting places for developing both lag and lead metricsthen share your own ideas on LEAD’s Facebook page.

  • How many kids are in worship vs. how many families send kids to Sunday school while the parents go to church?
  • If your church has a school or preschool, how many school families vs. how many church families participate in congregational events?
  • How does milestone attendance change over the years? For example, follow one class over the course of a number of years to watch how participation changes and grows.
  • How many failures can we celebrate as people take risks and try new things?
  • How many hours do members spend volunteering with community organizations each month over a year?
  • How much time do grandparents spend with their grandchildren in prayer and faith formation, and how often?
  • How much time do men spend with male friends outside of work and church, and how often?
  • How many people are able to be vulnerable with each other in and out of worship?
  • How many younger leaders are invited, stepping up, coached, and freed to serve?
  • How many people have attempted, are in the process of, or have learned English or Spanish so they can have better relationships with other members?
  • How many different people show up early for worship to help set up or stay after to tear down?
  • How long do people stay after worship because they enjoy the relationships that are developing?
  • What is the number of phone calls/texts/conversations centered around faith development and prayer outside of Sunday worship?
  • How long does it take to turn to the correct chapter/verse in the Bible during Bible study and Sunday worship?
  • How many people are engaged in small groups or seasonal devotions?
  • How many parent conversations and engagements happen outside of Sunday morning?
  • What is the number of new people who have transitioned into a higher level of leadership in the congregation during the year?
  • What is the number of people who consider themselves mentors to someone else in the congregation?
  • How often do people talk about or mention their church to people/friends outside the church?
  • How many people know the congregation’s purpose/mission/vision? How many know what the core values are?
  • What is the parking lot capacity during the week? (Is the building being used?)
  • How many neighbors/partners can identify your church?
  • What percentage of the total budget is allocated for mission support?

Are these ideas prompting others in your imagination? Make your own list.

Think about this:

  • Can you see the human connection in each of these lag or lead metrics?
  • Can you imagine their meaning?
  • Can you tell their stories?
  • Can you brainstorm experiments?
  • If they are lag metrics, can you identify a lead metric that will influence them?

The rich conversations that come out of this process help grow trust, shared language, and commitment.

Dear PBS

by Kristen Krueger, PhD – LEAD Consultant & Director of Student Leadership

“Dear PBS,

I don’t think the Cat in the Hat shows respect. Because every time Nick takes a picture, Sally says “great photo Nick!” but every time Sally takes a picture Nick says “Next time I get to take the picture.” Just because she’s a girl doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve fairness.”

–Cora, age 6

Several weeks later, PBSKids sent Cora a thoughtful, personal reply in which they validated her opinion, admitted that they could make improvements and assured Cora that they had passed her words on to the writers of The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About That. They encouraged her to “always speak up if you hear something that doesn’t sound right to you” and assured her that her criticism was appreciated.

That letter and the response convinced Cora that she is a person with the ability to create lasting change for good. At age 6, Cora has no doubt that her voice matters and that she should use her words to speak out when she perceives injustice.  She proudly tells anyone who will listen “I know I can change the world. I already changed PBS.

But the truth is, it almost didn’t happen.

When Cora came up to me with her criticism of the TV show, I only half-listened. I had hoped the show would entertain my kids long enough for me to cross a few things off my never-ending checklist and maybe allow me to drink my coffee in peace. I had not bargained on a letter-writing campaign. Later I dashed off a quick “isn’t my kid cute?” post on Facebook and a teacher friend suggested writing the letter, an idea that Cora jumped at.

It is so easy for adults to talk over, half-listen to, or fully dismiss children like I wanted to that night. We do it without even realizing it, assuming that small people’s thoughts can be pushed aside for grown-up matters. The letter PBSKids sent to Cora reminded me of just how wrong that can be. Empowering kids today means building young people and adults who are the catalysts for change. It means hearing criticism and being willing to make changes based on a child’s ideas.

There are four things that we can do with the children in our lives right now to encourage young people to become advocates for change in their worlds.

  1. TEACH children to name their feelings and provide healthy ways to process them. Truly listen when children tell you how they feel, validate their thoughts and ensure that they know their feelings have value. Put down the mental lists and really, truly listen.
  2. EQUIP young people to solve their own problems. This means granting decision-making power to children, allowing them to make mistakes and helping them rethink choices so they can succeed in the future.
  3. SHARE stories of ways kids have changed the world. Fill your home, church, school, and neighborhood with true stories of kids who identified a problem and made a change. Remind kids that not all changes have to be big to make an impact that is felt across their community.
  4. EMPOWER kids by providing platforms for them to make an impact. Family meetings, neighborhood service projects, community gardens, and congregational days of service learning all teach kids that they can shape their worlds. Be sure to celebrate each contribution.

Most of all, live authentically. Serve as a family, create intentional time and space for open conversations, build trust by sharing feelings, and invite children to join in promoting the causes near to your heart.

What if every kid felt empowered and encouraged to speak out the way Cora did? And what if they received encouraging responses each time? I imagine they would change the world.

List of Children’s Books I love on this topic:

Embodied Faith: The ELCA Youth Gathering


by Rozella Haydée White, Creator/Consultant with LEA
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The ELCA Youth Gathering brings together over 30,000 people – youth and adults – for times of worship, learning, service, reflection, and community. This is not just an event. This is an experience that practices embodied faith. The Youth Gathering models what life would look like if we took discipleship seriously. It’s not just about the number of people gathered. It’s about what happens when they are together and how the Spirit moves them to live their faith out loud.

And this is the gift that the ELCA Youth Gathering offers us all, whether or not we attend. It provides a roadmap for what a life of faith could be, could look like, could feel like, if we practiced our faith in community.

Inspiring Worship

I’ve attended the Youth Gathering since 2003. Every worship is carefully curated to take into account the faith we profess and the experience of those gathering. Styles of music, the usage of varying art forms, lighting, sounds, the sermon, and much more are thoughtfully crafted in order to create an unforgettable experience. Every participant is invited into holy space and the Holy Spirit shows up in ways that most congregations never experience.

Transformative Learning

The Youth Gathering takes seriously the reality that there are various learning styles. Each day and every experience presents a new opportunity for participants to learn stories of our faith, stories of people from the host city, and stories about how God has transformed the hearts of a community. The creativity used to craft learning experiences is breathtaking.

Holistic Service

Using the model of accompaniment, of recognizing the gifts, talents, and skills in a community and beginning with listening to the stories of those who serve as partners, the Youth Gathering shifts perspectives on serving. No longer can participants boast about what they did for someone. They are invited to walk alongside a partner and learn the story of a city as they engage in service that is respectful of people.

Intentional Reflection

At every turn, participants are asked to reflect on their experience. From what they did to what they heard to how they felt to what they saw, all aspects of the participants’ experience are used to uncover what God is up to. Time is given and taken to explore the meaning behind each moment and encounter.

Beloved Community

The Youth Gathering nurtures community at every level. There is a community of leaders that plan the event. There is a community of volunteers that help execute the event. There is the host community that has been in relationship with the gathering staff for years prior to the event. Community is the glue that makes this whole thing work.

How might your congregation or community follow the example of the gathering? How are worship, learning, service, reflection, and community created in such a way in your context that people are drawn deeper into faith?

LEAD is a proponent of the ELCA Youth Gathering. Many of our staff and partners are volunteering this week because we believe in the ministry of the gathering and have experienced first hand the transformation that occurs. As an organization committed to empowering christian leaders and transforming faith communities, we believe that the Youth Gathering is a critical component of people’s formation. It has served as an entry point for many youth and adults seeking to dive deeper into the practice of faith.

We join with thousands of people praying for those traveling to Houston this week and for those who have been planning and preparing for this time. You can join in the fun by watching evening Mass Gathering events via live stream at

In Search of Paul

By Rev. Dr. Don Carlson, host of LEAD’s In Search of Paul pilgrimage

Meredith Wilson’s The Music Man, set in River City, Iowa in 1912, opens with a group of traveling salesmen riding the Rock Island Line. They agree on one thing; to be a good salesman, “You gotta know the territory!”

After hosting five In Search of Paul study pilgrimages for LEAD, I am convinced that knowing Paul’s territory – the Roman Empire – brings a much richer understanding of the apostle Paul and his gospel.

New Testament scholar N.T. Wright has said, “For too long we’ve read Scripture with 19thcentury eyes and 16thcentury questions. It’s time we get back to reading with 1stcentury eyes and 21stcentury questions.” My experience tells me that Wright is right; too often we read Paul through Reformation lenses.

Walking through ancient Philippi, seeing the Roman forum at Thessaloniki and the Temple of Apollo at Corinth, discovering that there were imperial temples to Hadrian, Domitian, and Augustus at Ephesus –  these experiences bring with them the realization that Paul was writing to very small faith communities that lived in a world very different from Luther’s or ours.

The pervasiveness of Roman Imperial Theology, the patronage system, the social restraints of slavery and caste, the inescapable economic inequality, the array of gods and temples, and the brutality of the “Pax Romana” – the peace of Rome – all stood in stark contrast to the grace and peace of Jesus. Faithfulness to Jesus called for a different way of doing life together. Paul knew his territory.

A pastor, rostered less than ten years and who received a partial scholarship, wrote this note of thanks for his In Search of Paul experience:

Dear Scholarship Provider,

I wanted to write you this note of deep gratitude for the money you gave to the “In Search of Paul” trip. Since I began professional ministry, this trip was a dream of mine and your generosity made it possible. The experience has forever changed the way that I read Paul. It has influenced every sermon since returning and I have already offered two presentations on the experience. Later next month I will also use my new insights to lead a listening session after a showing of “Paul, the Apostle” motion picture at a local theater.

Your scholarship makes it possible for younger people like me to have experiences like that will directly influence the next 10-20 years of service. Because of this, I plan to give to the next scholarship drive. It will not be much, but I feel called to pay it forward and I pray that your continued help will make more dreams possible.

Peace always,

Justin Dittrich

That is the goal of any pilgrimage or immersion: to know the territory and understand life from a different point of view. In this case, to begin to understand Paul from a 1stcentury point of view; and then begin asking some 21stcentury questions.

Visit In Search of Paul for more information about the 2020 pilgrimage.

Praying as a Family

excerpt from Faithful Metrics by Peggy Hahn

It’s the people who love me and whom I love that give my life meaning. For me, sitting at the table with my parents, my children, and my grandchildren provides a window into what makes a meaningful life of faith.

We often wait with hot plates of food in front of us while the older children argue over which grace we will say together. At ages five and six, they have a long list of songs and prayers to choose from. This takes time, while everyone impatiently waits. Once we pray their childhood prayer, my mother chimes in with her prayers. Wow. Everyone sits in silence to listen. For the first time all day, all six children under the age of six are quiet in this moment. Then one of the children interrupts with a loud AMEN and laughter erupts from everyone.

How do we know how to pray as a family?

This is not a rhetorical question. We know because the church taught us to pray. The church keeps us praying even when we have had seasons where mealtime grace was not the norm. We were held through hard, heart-wrenching times when we didn’t have words to pray for ourselves and during busy times when we didn’t make prayer a priority.

Before long, the children are finished eating and leave the table to play nearby. The adults are free to engage in grown-up conversation. My parents reflect on how different things are from when they were parents. They tell stories about their childhood. It makes me remember when my grandmother looked me in the eye and said, “Peggy, this is not my world.” She died four years ago at age 93. She was right.

I feel this truth in what my parents are sharing. I can admit that I feel it in myself.

I watch my parents wonder about the dairy-free, gluten-free, vegetarian meals we share together. I share their curiosity about the ways young parents set boundaries on screen time, something we never understood could be helpful when the screen was a television. There are so many new rules; the old rules seem antiquated.

That is until we stop to pray together before meals. Or in those moments when the children ask for (or give) a bedtime blessing.

These practices take my breath away because it is in these sacred moments that I realize what hasn’t changed. There is a core way of being that connects the dots between our generations. We are a family that worships, prays, and serves God in the messiness of life.

The power of the Holy Spirit and our home congregations should get all the credit for this. But no one is counting. There is no place for me to tell this story in a way that inspires leaders in the church to keep praying and teaching our traditional prayers (including ones like Johnny Appleseed) to the community.

Instead, the church feels a loss on the weeks we are together as a family practicing our faith outside the walls of our church.

The church feels like it has lost out because we aren’t in the room validating the power of the Holy Spirit working in our lives.

I am aching for a church that can find ways to celebrate with us when we have a faith that leaves the building.

I pray for a church that understands, expects, and prepares people to go. Yes … people go.

Where is the happy dance for people of God sent out to live their faith in daily life? At work, at school, at the table, or at bedtime? This should all count if it is indeed faithful to the Gospel.

Church leaders could stop judging people who miss worship because God is going with them and instead wonder and celebrate all who encounter Christ in these people, all those who will know God’s love is for them because people have been sent.

If only we could flip the paradigm with a new value system that encourages going.

The big pushback here is around things no one wants to talk about. Real concerns about funding the salaries of congregational staff, facility maintenance, and programs that teach the faith and serve the poor. These are crucial, right? Or are they? Who decides?

So many of the things I have felt were crucial have turned out to be less than important. If I could reclaim the number of hours I spent ironing my children’s church clothes or cleaning and polishing their little shoes so they would look cute at church, it would be shocking how much time I would have had to play and pray with them instead.

We get to lead through a very sacred season in our world where what is kept as a core value and what is released is up for grabs. Some of these decisions are made with God’s mission in mind. Others are made to preserve our treasures on earth. There can be a fine line here that is hard to discern.

I love using the lace tablecloth from my deceased mother-in-law or the silver from some relative I never really knew to serve my family dinner. It feels like a perfect blend of values, tradition, and respect made available to my grandchildren, who blow bubbles in the crystal glass filled with milk. In the end, I don’t care if they keep the dishes for their own families, but I do care with all of my being that they keep the faith.

Please join me in praying that leaders in the church focus on what matters most. The Holy Spirit is way ahead of us and we are wasting precious time.

Leverage

By Peggy Hahn

The tipping point is never one action. That is a myth.

It is a result of persistence, the gradual effort that feels thankless at the time but ultimately adds up.

One conversation at a time, one sermon each week, one leadership retreat each year, these are what shift culture over time.

The only time change happens fast is when one of two things happens:

  1. a crisis, or
  2. a choice.

While these both offer significant opportunities for birthing new things, they happen less frequently than the everyday, incremental nudging that ultimately creates the tipping point.

The leader’s job is to determine the direction of the push. Nudging or pushing without direction are exhausting and fruitless. Pick the destination (even if this point moves over time, start somewhere) and start walking people with you down that path.

Don’t overthink it.

In some cases, the big work is just to start walking with a prayer that the path will show up.

In the end this is faithful leadership.

Hard times? Show up!

by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

Everyone knows the gut-wrenching pain of a hard time. I am sure you have noticed, we are living through one in our world right now.

  • When going to school is a life-threatening experience for students of all ages
  • When going through a divorce
  • When living with or accompanying terminal illness
  • When abused or impacted by emotionally or mentally ill people
  • When addicts are not working on getting clean
  • When under or unemployed, unable to pay bills or feed children
  • When a natural disaster rips our lives apart
  • When death shocks us as dear friends, parents or children leave this world too soon

Life can be unbearable. The pain and suffering is real and it is all around us. Lord in your mercy, hear our prayers.

In hard times, how are we showing up for each other?

Sometimes hard times mean we must hit STOP on life as we usually live it. We can’t just do what is on the calendar. It is more important to show up than to send a note, say a quick prayer, or talk by phone.

This is what it means to be incarnational.

It is easy to believe people when they say, “I’m okay,” when we know in our hearts they are NOT. Their statement can give us permission to stay caught up in our own whirlwind. Stop doing this.

There is truly nothing like being there.

Jesus lived this. Sometimes, like in the case of Lazarus’s death, he showed up later than the family wanted, but he still came. Maybe one point of this story is to remind us that late is better than never when it comes to being with the people we love as they go through hard times.

Too many people are going it alone. They are surrounded by coworkers, friends and even family, that believe them when they say “I’m okay.” We can tell ourselves, “it’s none of our business.” Or “I don’t want to meddle.” We are really just letting ourselves off the hook for not showing up.

If there is any reason to follow Jesus, it might just be to figure out how to love other people, even in (especially in) hard times. This is less about the church and more about the Christians. You know who needs you. Be there for them in a way that gives them the courage to heal. Don’t back off on tough conversations because they are awkward. Stick your neck out, pray like crazy, and be Jesus in hard times. This is our watch.

A Summer of Intentions

Summer is a great time to truly appreciate God’s gifts to us. This summer, LEAD is offering 20 short daily reflections that are totally free for you to use and share. Each day includes a suggested focus, a Bible verse, and ideas for ways to share your experience. You can even sign up to receive the daily intention by email!

Let’s live intentionally with God this summer.

I intend to spend this day with all the curiosity and imagination that God gave me.

I intend to spend this day with God.

I intend to share my joy.

Resources created by Lynn Willis, LEAD spiritual guide.

Pentecost Blessing

As the third Person of the Trinity blows into our hearts today,

May we feel the imagination of the Creator,

The compassion of the Christ,

And the motivation of the Spirit.

May we feel the energy of this complex Trinity God within us –

always giving, always receiving.

A God who cherishes diversity.

And, as God intended, may we celebrate the value and dignity of every being – all of us.

Without exception.

by Lynn Willis,  LEAD Spiritual Guide

Reflecting on Perspective

by Peggy Hahn, Executive Director of LEAD

Every year in their childhood, my children built (or rebuilt) their tree house. At first we worked with them, but as the years went by their confidence in the process and their passion to create something wonderful on their own made us step back to make space for their growth.

I can remember helping my children learn to break their big projects into manageable tasks. One year, to my surprise, they hoisted the porch swing into the tree to make a “sofa.” Now that I think about it, I can’t recall ever getting that swing back on the porch. The very act of creating the treehouse took on a life of its own.

It has been my personal experience that things that feel insurmountable or even impossible can become doable by breaking them into smaller parts. I’m sure you can reflect on similar experiences where you took it one rung at a time before constructing the treehouse or whatever it was you were after. God has given us the ability to change our perspective. We can move from the feeling of being overwhelmed to some small steps in the right direction. We can open ourselves up to create, to dream, and to imagine the possibilities.

Sometimes it takes a leader to step into an anxious moment and point out the possibilities. Gaining new perspectives may mean moving closer to something, or stepping away. Often, we need a thinking partner to help us notice what God is already doing.

One definition of perspective is “a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.” (Oxford Living Dictionaries)

What I love about that definition is that it implies that there is an alternative perspective.

Dear God, please open our capacity to see more like you do. To have a wider, deeper, closer, farther perspective so we feel the urge to create. Amen.

A Word on Seasons


by Rozella White, founder of RHW Consulting, and creator, consultant with LEAD

For some of us, spring has sprung. I am in a location where we are experiencing beautiful days – the mornings are cool, the days are warm, and the evenings are alive with cicadas. There is NO humidity, which for those of us living in Houston, is a rarity. I literally see nature coming to life and people engaging with each other after a time of dormancy. I, for one, love this season. It provides a brief window where we can enjoy the outdoors without being eaten alive by mosquitoes or melting because of the damp, oppressive heat that overtakes us for much of the year.

For many of you, however, spring is taking its sweet time to make an appearance. I do not miss the Midwest this year as I see blizzards overtaking my neighbors to the north and east. Thinking of the winters I spent in Chicago and Philadelphia brings me to tears. Literally. I don’t know how many of you do it, especially this year as winter is saying a prolonged goodbye.

As I consider these realities, I can’t help but think about the parallels of nature’s seasons to our lives. I’ve learned that life is cyclical; that much like the seasons of winter, spring, summer, and fall, we experience seasons throughout the course of our life. There can be a time of dormancy and death, one of new life and growth, one of vibrancy and opportunity, and one of pruning and major shifts. Seasons teach us that life and death are intertwined. I’ve also learned a few additional lessons from seasons.

Seasons come and go. No season is permanent. I am reminded of the phrase, “This too shall pass.” As long as we are alive, we will experience change. While our feelings are always valid, we have to remember that any given moment, be it good or bad, does not define who we are. Nor are these experiences permanent. Change is the one constant in life that we can be sure of.

There is no way to hasten a season. No matter how hard we try, we are not in control of the seasons of life anymore than we are in control of Mother Nature. We can’t speed through a season or slow it down. All we can do is be open to the gifts and graces of each moment and commit to learning the lessons that a season holds.

For every good thing a season provides, there are also lessons to be learned. Seasons can be hard and good. We might experience deep pain and soul stirring joy. There may be times of isolation and times of community. Regardless of what happens, there are always lessons to be learned, lessons that teach you more about who you are and what you value. When we take the time to mine the stories of our lives, we are awakened to insights that lead us deeper on our journey of awareness.

What season are you currently experiencing? What are the gifts of this season? What are the struggles? What lessons are you being invited to learn?

Love,

Me

P.S. If you are interested in more reflection on the seasons, I highly recommend this resource by Parker Palmer.

Originally published in the RHW Consulting Newsletter.

6 Objections to Online Ministry

 

by David Hansen, Director of Communication & Innovation, LEAD

I have been privileged to be able to help congregations and leaders across the country work on how they communicate. In particular, I have often taught about social media and online tools for ministry.

In doing this, I have heard the same objections over and over again.

Here are the 6 most common objections to having an online presence that I hear from leaders in congregations and my answers to them.

1) People just use social media to avoid real relationships.

This is far and away the most common reason I hear for churches avoiding an an online presence. It also comes in the form of “I don’t care what you had for lunch.”

It’s true. People talk about some pretty inane stuff online. Things that we may not care about, or which we might think are pointless or meaningless. But this is true of every mode of communication!

Traditional print publishing has giving us both the works of William Faulkner and trashy romance novels.
The same medium gave us both the Washington Post and the National Enquirer.
And in the same way, alongside the trivial conversations on social media are very deep and meaningful conversations about faith, community, and the world.

Even more importantly: some of the most important conversations in our lives are built on these “trivial” conversations.

At the end of the day I spend time with my spouse, and we talk about our days: what we had for lunch, who we talked with, the things we did at work. Those so-called trivial conversations are often the mortar that bind together the relationships in our lives.

2) No one in our community is online.

I don’t believe you. Period.

It’s true, some communities are more wired than others. Communities that are near large cities tend to have better connectivity; younger communities tend to be online more than older communities. I get that. I lived in a rural area for years. High speed internet access was not easy to come by when I moved to that community. But mobile connections have changed everything.

As of 2016 88.1% of the North American population is online (source).
77% of all Americans have a smartphone (source).
Facebook recently passed the 2 billion total accounts.

More people in your community are online than you think. The number of older adults online (and on social media) is growing exponentially.

Even if the people currently attending your congregation are not online, the rest of the community around your congregation are. The people that you want to invite into your congregation are online.

3) Social media is just a fad.

Facebook is now old enough to have a Facebook account – 13 years old.

The world’s first website is over 25 years old (and still online, an archived info page about the CERN “world wide web” project).

The first BBS (bulletin board systems, an early form of online community) came into being 40 years ago!

Social media will change. New platforms will become important, and others will fade away. But people will continue to use online media to build community and communicate with one another.

4) We can’t afford to be online. 

You can’t afford not to be online.

The days when you could just be listed in the phone book or put an ad in the newspaper and be done with it are over. In 2008,  60% of people started their searches for information online – can you imagine what that number is now?

Do you know the top search term on Sundays? “Church near me.”

If someone in your community is looking for a new place to worship, the chances extremely good are that their first stop will be online – either a google search, or via a friend’s recommendation on social media. You want to be there.

More to the point, it is very easy to develop an online presence with little or no budget. It is free to develop a presence on all of the major social media platforms. FREE. There are many ways to build a website for free, or on a very limited budget. FREE.

5) Social media is just for ________ (large, suburban, wealthy, young, etc.) congregations 

Some of the best social media ministries that I have seen come out of smaller congregations. In truth, larger institutions often have trouble with new ways of communication – it has to go through the proper committees, and be voted on ten different times, etc. Smaller institutions tend to be more nimble and able to adapt to new ways of being.

In addition, smaller congregations need online media more. The large, wealthy, etc., institutions have lots of resources for building a community and raising awareness. It is smaller communities that are often looking for the low-cost alternative (see #4).

6) Online interaction will never replace face-to-face interaction.

You are absolutely correct. There is no replacement for face-to-face interaction.

But the thing is: nobody is suggesting that congregations and pastors abandon face-to-face interaction! It is not an either/or choice.

Your newspaper ads do not replace face-to-face interaction. Your phone line does not replace face-to-face interaction. Your print newsletter does not replace face-to-face interaction. They are all tools to help facilitate good face-to-face relationships, and help your congregation proclaim the Gospel.

And the same is true of your online ministry. It is one tool (among many) to help facilitate communications in your congregation and your work of proclaiming the Gospel and building community. It does not replace anything. It works alongside other tools.

If you are just getting started using online communications for your congregation, I highly recommend the books The Social Media Gospel and Click2Save as starting places. 

Originally published on digitalpastor.org

What frame are you holding?

by Peggy Hahn, Executive Director – LEAD

I am a leader carrying an ancient frame into a fast-changing world. The people I serve are beautiful, faithful, stuck, and stubborn. Many of them love a God who is part of a worldview from the industrial age. They cannot envision a God who is on the loose in a networked world.

God is bigger than our frame. No box fits, but every generation, every society, from the beginning of time has had to name and claim a box. It is their only way to make sense out of this omnipotent God. Rightly so. As open and interested as we might be, we have limited vision and real blind spots.

It is my call to engage this conversation. By looking at the lines on my face, you know I am from the past box. I confess that “Lift High the Cross” is one of my favorite songs even as I cringe at the “battle lyrics.” But my heart-songs are not the whole story.

What you can’t see when you look at me is my bleeding heart. My true, inner heart that is breaking for the smallness of people’s God-view. I am sick about this to the point of not being able to do anything else with my life except engage this conversation.

My life would be a lot easier if I could set all of this aside and enjoy my beautiful family, our home in the country, and being Dewayne’s wife. Trust me, I have often asked, why can’t I be a normal person in my age group? Why don’t I spend all of my time reveling in the graciousness of God instead of wrestling with God’s church?

I look at the faces of my six grandchildren, or at my five adult children and their partners, and I know that I will never be able to let go of this call, not in spite of them, but because of them.

I do believe that leadership makes a difference. I know that God uses people to do God’s work in the world and I am a small part of this movement. The frame I choose to hold is about love. It is a frame that opens up a God-view to engage every diversity, every story, everyone. I don’t really mind if you feel different because, in the end, that fits in my frame too, even if it doesn’t fit in yours.

What does a person do with this way of being when it is your job to help stalled and out of breath leaders? I am talking about leaders who may care more about the cemetery on their property than the people walking on the same ground.

I can’t stand this kind of small thinking about who belongs in the Christian community. It is outside of my frame. It is unthinkable that some people might be more important or better, or somehow more worthy.

I am convinced of this because, to be honest, I know church people. Friends, they just aren’t that great. They are just like everyone else. Not worse. Not better. This us and them BS is wrong and I want to scream that from the rooftops but no one is signing up for that seminar. 

So, we incrementally walk people towards a wider view. We teach about the frame, about blind spots and about the art of listening. We empower people to be their best self. We believe that God can work in anyone, even us.

Yet the process feels so darn slow. My grandchildren will be parents at this rate.

This is why we are experimenting with different technologies. We are calling the church to better, more faithful metrics. We are saying that Christian leadership really is about loving God with our all – all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. Loving all of our neighbors as our self. It is about this three-letter word: ALL.

Our strategy has been to take people on a three-year journey. It is a walk from where we are right now to a new version of ourselves, transformed by personal growth, by listening to people outside of our frame, and by growing others. But it is a s-l-o-w walk.

For four weeks, I participated in the altMBA. This is a crash course on leadership by Seth Godin, one of the world’s most interesting marketers. It has opened my eyes to a fast-track for forming leaders. I am a convert. I want to engage this technology for others who are willing to do the work. I know this is not for everyone, but we still have the slow plan for that crowd. I am excited to explore this with others because I believe the system worked on me, why not on others?

Stay tuned as we dig into this as a possible future for LEAD. For leaders who want to follow Christ and lead the church into a bigger God-view. If you want in on this vision, beware. We need funding partners. We need people willing to do the work.

It is a relief to me that someone has figured this out and is inviting us to do the same. Check out altMBA. Be ready to grow, to work and to lead. THIS is what all of us are called to do.

Fully human. Incarnational.


by Peggy Hahn, Executive Director, LEAD

The goal can’t be quality, not for people anyway. It needs to be humanity. The rough edges of caring, of improv and of connection. – Seth Godin

Let excellence go. Focus on relationships. On being a human being, connected more deeply than we will ever realize to other people.

Pay attention to each other. This starts by noticing what’s happening at home. How are people loving each other wherever you live? It’s not about gender, marital status, age or sexuality. It’s about being Christ in real life, even on the hard days.

What will set Christian leaders apart – pointing to a risen God – is not new news but it is good news. It is how we love each other.

It does take more time. It is messier than we have patience for. But it is the only way to really lead like Jesus.

If your church spends time avoiding the neighbors, keeping certain people out of leadership or in leadership, or talking behind backs in the parking lot, it is time for you to move to a better version of yourself.

Lead your congregation from power struggles to integrity by modeling this yourself.

This does not mean everyone is at the leadership table. It does mean everyone has a voice and is fully loved for who they are.

This does not mean letting bad behavior rule. It is exactly the opposite as we hold people accountable to treating each other right.

This does not mean ignoring the child who acts up. It means making that child (even if he or she is a grown-up child) worth investing in by figuring out how to love them more fully.

Being fully human starts with dealing with ourselves. This is an Easter invitation. Imagine a movement of Jesus-followers being more human to multiply humankind. It’s not going to be easy, but it is the only way forward.

we are Easter people and our song is yes!

Yes to walking humbly
(Palm Sunday)

Yes to the earth’s gifts –
water and bread and wine
(Last Supper)

Yes to loving one another
(the new commandment)

Yes to non-violence
(in the garden of Gethsemane)

Yes to forgiveness
(on the cross)

Yes to trust and even to death
(Good Friday)

Yes to Life and to Love
(Easter and beyond)

May we join in God’s great YES!

 

“We are Easter people and Alleluia is our song.” St. Augustine of Hippo
blessing by Lynn Willis

 

From Me to We: Shared Ministry as a way forward

 

by Peggy Hahn, Executive Director, LEAD

Until about the last 100 years shared ministry has always been included as an indispensable model for the Christian movement – faith communities sharing mission, pastors, buildings, and resources for the good of the whole church. Reclaiming this ancient model is more about the faith than it is about survival once people can let go of the idea of “my church” and embrace the truth – the church belongs to God.

Watch this video as leaders from congregations tell their stories of shared ministry and ask yourself this:

Who is your congregation called to partner with?

Since the days of Jesus, people have understood that God’s call to mission includes building networks of communities with people of other faiths, local businesses, hospitals, schools, and more.

A shift in leadership mindset from me to we, is a faithful, ancient and renewing response to being church in a changing world.

Work-Life Balance – It’s a Lie!

Did you know that only 20% of the US population feel like they have a healthy work-life balance? So, you’re not alone! But since when is work-life balance our life goal anyway?

There is no perfect metric that can set life on a balanced course. From day to day, week to week, or year to year, the variables are tremendous.

So, how are we to live the lives we are meant to live as holistic, integrated, fully-human human beings?

This isn’t a rhetorical question. I want you to take a moment now and ask yourself this:

How can I live the life I was born to live?

At the end of your life, would you prefer to be known as the person who did a great job juggling life or a person who had integrity?

If our goal is to keep our lives balanced, we will lose. Most days, real life is too hard to balance.

If our goal is to identify and live out our personal values, the values we share with our partners at home or the values that define our work teams, we have a chance at an integrated, centered life that holds together, no matter what.

How can you break free of the work-life balance life to really live the life you were born to live?

As much as we love planning ahead, being organized, and checking off lists, it is even more important to hear the people who are closest to us say:

You are the same person at home and at work. You practice what you preach. You walk your talk. You have integrity.

For this to happen, we need to be centered.

I don’t know about you but I have a better chance of hitting that mark on a day to day basis. If I can wake up in the morning knowing what I believe, if I am centered, I only have one me to manage…and that is a relief.

It won’t matter if I am playing at the park with my grandchildren, in a heartfelt conversation with a staff person, responding to a client, sitting with my aunt as she gets cancer treatment or responding to the aftermath of hurricane Harvey…I am centered and what I am doing reflects that.

If this is something you want to work on with intentionality, LEAD offers Value Cards (or you can make your own using Post-It notes) that can help you get centered. They work for personal reflection or for teams of people negotiating shared values. My husband and I used them when we were working on his retirement plan. Once you’ve identified your values, go to work aligning your life around your top 3-5 values.

Embrace the feeling of living a holistic life. Notice that I did not say easier life because once you have your values in place, being centered means using them to make decisions with intentionality rather than letting the markets, your peers, or competing values drive the day. We can do this…you and I can do this…it’s worth it.

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